Stephanie Linus Daily

Tag: Advice

  • Best Piece of Advice for Life

    What’s the best piece of advice anyone has ever given you? We ask five women:

    “My uncle told me: ‘You wouldn’t need destiny helpers or favours if you are disciplined with growing your talent.’ I didn’t understand it then but I understand it now. You can’t keep running around looking for someone to make your dreams come true. If you stick to your skills and continuously show up for yourself, you will make your dreams a reality without losing an ounce of your dignity. I appreciate that advice.” – Jacqueline

    “My boss told me once: ‘It doesn’t matter how much you explain how you want your life to be, if you are explaining to someone who doesn’t have the mental prowess to understand or imagine greatness, you will waste your time and still leave the conversation as if you lost virtue. Don’t be afraid to leave people behind.”’ – Rasheedat

    “My mum used to say: ‘You get to meet people for a reason, as much as possible try to be kind. The memories of kindness will heal you through your entire life and the lives of your children. Kindness is key.”’ – Oby

    “I never forget how hard I worked to where I am, so I don’t live a reckless life because I would hate to lose it all because of recklessness or lack of principles. It was a constant reminder by my father to be smart with life, and not be my own enemy.” – Divine

    “I read this somewhere: ‘Manage your expectations of others. People will always fall short but if you are not relying on them to decide your value, you wouldn’t be broken when they disappoint. So manage your expectations and be the person you wish others could be – for yourself.” – Nneka

    xoxo

  • Is It OK to take Relationship Advice from a Single Person?

    It’s okay to take advice from people who love and care for you, such as close friends and relatives who are single?

    Many people will argue that there’s a reason they’re single and to be honest, they should be focusing on how to change that,  and not be so concerned with  giving you advice.

    On the flip side, some single people can be so full of wisdom that they dish out good advice even in situations they have little or no experience in.

    For me, this is the way I see it: Your friends and family can be very bias when it comes to the personal responsibility because they see you in a different light than your spouse does. They don’t realize that you function in a different capacity as a friend than you do as a lover, so they’ll almost always side with you if they’re biased. 

    So most times, their advice is not biased because they are single, but because of the relationship they have with you. That’s the way I feel.

    What do you think? Is it OK to take relationship advice from a single person?

  • What Advice Would You Give Your Younger Self?

    With age comes experience, with experience comes knowledge and with knowledge comes understanding.

    Many times as young children, teenagers and even in our post teenage years, we get advice from our parents and older ones which we just shun. We’ve all been there. Sometimes we think they are old fashioned and don’t just want us to have our way. Or we do things just because they said we shouldn’t do it. We probably succumbed to peer pressure and were affected by our mates telling us we were not good/talented/pretty enough.

    Many times, we get really burnt when we don’t listen to such advice and we only realize that when we’ve learnt our lesson. We have regrets for actions we took even when we were warned not to and wish we could reverse the hands of time. That we know is impossible.

    But today, let’s just imagine we could. Let’s imagine we were much younger, moments before we took that step/did that thing we were not supposed to do. That thing we wish we didn’t do. Now that you know better, what advice would you give your younger self?

  • Talk To Steph: I Don’t Know What He Wants

    confused girl
    Dear Steph,

    I met this guy a few months ago and we started dating shortly after. I told him I was a virgin and he was very happy about it, saying it was good of me to keep my virginity and he was going to respect my wishes to abstain from sex until marriage.

    However, three weeks ago, he invited me to come spend the night at his place. When I refused, he suddenly became angry and hasn’t spoken to me ever since. He doesn’t pick my calls or reply my messages anymore. I’m confused now and I miss him so much. Do you think I should spend the night with him? I don’t know what he wants.

    I’m 19 years-old.

    Let’s jump in with some good advice SL Fabz.