Stephanie Linus Daily

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  • Rest In Peace Oronto Douglas

    I feel the need to express again my heartfelt condolences to the family of Oronto Douglas on the sad demise of a great man.

    According to media reports, he was diagnosed with cancer around 2008 and had been fighting the illness since then. Until his death, he was a special adviser to President Goodluck Jonathan and a renown environmental activist who died in Abuja early Thursday morning of cancer related ailment.

    Today, I read the sad news that he was actually told by his doctors in the US recently that he could not survive further medication and that he had few days to live. Following this devastating message, he returned to Nigeria and was in high spirits till the moments leading to his death.

    He would have been 49 on August 6 this year.

    His contributions to the Nigerian Movie Industry would be forever remembered. Oronto Douglas was a Nollywood ally who help facilitate the relationship between the Presidency and Nollywood. He also made it possible for Nollywood to receive some much needed funding from the Federal Government.

    He would be dearly missed.

    Rest In Peace, Sir!

  • ‘Cos I’m Happy!!! A Choice You Need To Make Everyday

    “Oh! Not Again!” you say – jumping off the bed, as you put off the deafening alarm on your phone. You had set it for 4 AM, your boss told you the day before about a presentation you would be taking. You mumble a few words of prayer as you take a hurried bath and hit the road. Traffic! The very thing you were trying to avoid, just as the traffic light turns green, a “crazy” woman comes from nowhere to overtake you, and gives you an irritating “tongue out” in disdain.

    You finally get to the office right on time, your boss and the rest of the board members are waiting. The projector is all set, the only thing missing is the presentation which you saved on a flash drive. It is supposed to be in your purse, but you know it is not there. you had left it on the table last night, hoping you would remember to pick it up, while had your morning cereal. But of course neither of the two happened. Today is gonna be a bad day!

    Some days look like everything just worked together to make you feel bad.

    In the midst of all these, you have a choice:

    You can choose to brood over an unhappy event all day long, or you could focus on other events that would make you happy.

    Somebody might have said something hurtful or disrespectful to you; maybe your car broke down on the road, and disrupted your plans for the day. One truth is that, you might not be able to change certain events, or people’s behaviour, but you can control your reactions, your response.

    Sometimes, your happiness might seemed threatened by the happiness or success of others around you. It seems everyone has something to be happy about – except you. That is not true; if you take time out to think, you have a lot of reasons to be happy. Focus on why you should be happy and not vice versa.

    Change your outlook by seeing other people’s success as yours. Their happiness should not take away your own happiness. Choose to be happy every day. Try to get up early, do some exercise, get organized, speak positive words to yourself and about yourself, stay inspired!

    Have a great day SL Fabz and stay happy!!!

  • Breaking Free From Your Zone

    Have you ever been scared of trying out something totally new or out of your zone? Are there times had wished you learnt a skill, or taken a technical/business course, start a business or even apply for a job?

    Every day, we are faced with different choices, to speak or to keep quiet; to smile or frown, to keep or to discard; to act or to retreat. Our very lives are a culmination of the choices we have made, so whatever you do, or do not do is who you allow yourself become.

    As the poets would tag it, it is important to “seize the day.” Let every moment count, it is never too late to learn how to drive or to play the piano. You could still get that Masters, or even go back to school. Stop going through life in motions without movement. Take a definite step towards your goal. I am sure you would find the following tips helpful:

    1. Make a conscious effort to build up interest in a particular area you wish to explore.
    2. Build the right networks and relationships, and read books in that line. Skills can be learned.
    3. Do not be afraid to be vulnerable; if you do not know something, simply say so, and don’t try to impress people. You are doing yourself more harm than good.
    4. Make the best use of every moment and opportunity.

    In as much as you “seize the day,” do not be anxious or use external standards to judge yourself. Strive to be the best of you – and not someone else.

  • You Need To Read This Six Year-Old’s Definition Of Love

    We all have different definitions of love. Some are simple, some complicated, some get even confusing.

    But in the mind of a child, love is usually pure and simple. Just like this six year-old wrote. I found this so cute.

    what is love

    How would you describe her definition of love in one word?
    To you, what is love?

    Photo Credit: Kindnessblog.com

  • Stephanie’s Poll: How Much Should A Man Earn Before Getting Married?

    Some days back, while minding my business on social media, I came across this debate about the amount of money a man should earn before getting married.

    The debate was quite heated and interesting.

    Now, let’s properly analyze this. Here, I am referring to a man who is ready to settle down with a wife and have a family. This is considering the fact that the man would take up most of the financial responsibilities of the home and probably some from the extended family.

    Can we really put a figure to this income? Let’s try.

    A. Exactly or Below N50,000 Monthly

    B. Between N50,000 to N100,000 Monthly

    C. Way more than N100,000…. In fact, millions!

    D. It really doesn’t matter

    What is your choice? And why?

  • Photo Of The Day: The Heartbeat

    At first glance, the picture below just looks like an ordinary photo, a hug shared by an older and younger woman. But when you read the story behind the picture, it simply warms your heart.

    Vicki Brannon, 56, lost her son, Matthew McIntyre on July 5, 1996 after being mortally wounded by a friend who had accidentally fired a handgun. The grieving mother made the decision to donate Matthew’s organs, and the next day, the 14-year-old boy’s heart went to Jennifer Lentini. The 13-year-old girl, who had suffered from heart disease and was hospitalized for months waiting for a transplant, was given a new lease on life thanks to Matthew’s heart.

    After 18 years, Vicki had the chance to hear her dead son’s heart beat inside the chest of the woman he saved with a transplant. Their meeting is what you see in the picture below.

    The women met on National Donor Day, an emotional and momentous occasion for the two women, who wept and embraced tightly upon seeing each other in Tampa International Airport.

    “I’m overwhelmed, I’m happy—my son had a good, strong heart and it has kept her alive,” Vicki told NY Daily News. “I feel like I gained a daughter.”

    So, so touching….

    Photo of the day

    Photos by Tim Boyles

  • 5 Reasons To Be Nice To People Serving You

    Food servers don’t get as much recognition or respect as they deserve. I have had to endure watching people mistreat a waiter or waitress at public places and the sight was never pleasant. A recent experience inspired me to write this post. You should always be nice to someone serving you. Here are 5 reasons why:

    1. They need to be motivated
    Many times, to get great service from someone serving you, a simple smile does the trick. When they’ve been working for hours, they’re bound to be tired, and even when they’re not tired they’re going to be less inclined to do their best for someone who isn’t nice to them. So put your bad mood aside and motivate them to provide the best possible service.

    2. They’re human
    It’s really sad to hear many people treating a server badly as if they don’t see him or her as a fellow human being but rather just a means of getting their food. They really aren’t machines, but humans like you and I with their lives, family, problems… and deserve to be treated with politeness. Let’s not forget that.

    3. They don’t earn so much
    They don’t get paid anywhere near what politicians and others do for serving the public. Yet what would we do without them? Food servers are not paid enough for what they have to endure. This should be enough reason to be extra nice to them.

    4. They don’t often get good compliments
    It’s a two-way street. Be nice to them, and they’ll be nice to you. Everyone needs good compliments once in a while. If you have a complaint about the food or service, make your point calmly and you’re more likely to get a satisfactory resolution.

    5. They are handling your food
    You should also be aware that food servers have many devious ways of getting back at you if you treat them badly. I’ve heard shocking stories about what disgruntled chefs and servers do to your food in anger. Some may not be true, but its best not to take chances on annoying someone with access to your food. Isn’t it?

    Do you have any more reasons why its important to be nice to people serving you? What are some of the shocking stories you’ve heard of or experienced between a food server and a customer?

     

  • You’d Be Amazed At What Was Used To Draw This Picture

    Not everyone is born the same. Sometimes life throws us unfortunate events right from birth. Most of the time it is not fair and undeserved. But with a positive attitude, many have turned their situations into something truly awesome. Many like Paul Smith who was born with severe cerebral palsy, a disorder that causes physical disability.

    In the video, it seems he is typing some words, but no, he is drawing.

    He was born with severe Cerebral Palsy, yet Paul Smith has created hundreds of works of art using a typewriter

    His disorder makes using a brush or pen impossible, but as a young man, he discovered the keys to expressing himself using a typewriter. And using just 10 of the symbol keys, he creates outstanding works of art. He is called the ‘Typewriter Artist‘ and his story is truly inspiring.

    Check on it:

  • Happy Easter!

    Easter says
    you can put
    truth in a grave,
    but it won’t stay there.
    The Lord came to earth
    with a life to give,
    so each one of us
    may continue to live.
    May the Lord bless you on
    this day of Easter,
    and may it be a new beginning
    of greater prosperity,
    success and happiness.

    Happy Easter to you and your family as we celebrate our Father’s greatest sacrifice through his Son, Jesus Christ. Have a blessed Easter.

    What does Easter say to you?

  • Talk To Steph: My Dad Won’t Let Me Marry A Christian

    A StephanieDaily reader, Zainab, sent in this touching email.

    I’m a 27 year old girl. I work in an Advertising Agency which doesn’t pay much but with time it will grow. My issue is that ever since my Dad has made it mandatory for all of us to marry Muslim guys, I haven’t met any Muslim guy that I can take home. I just don’t understand why parents are this stubborn. Most of my friends are married with children and I’m still here trying to find a good relationship. Even my ugly friends are married with children. I have prayed and prayed and I am loosing faith. I went as far as asking friends to please introduce me to their husband’s Muslim friends but nothing came out of it. I now ask myself if there is something wrong some where. Please how do I go about this. My Dad would rather die than let me marry a Christian. Please I really need your advice. I’m getting tired. Thanks.

    Dear Zainab, first of all, let me give you a big e-hug. I’m very sure you are a pretty and smart young lady and I’d like to remind you to have some confidence in yourself. Don’t think something is wrong with you if your friends get married before you. You are perfectly OK and in due time, you will find true love and marry the love of your life. We all don’t have the same timing in life. Perhaps God is preparing you, and him too, for the time you will eventually meet.

    You didn’t mention in your mail that you were in love with, or dating a Christian. It just seems to me from the tone of your message that there are more Christian guys around you or asking to date you than Muslims. I know this can be really frustrating considering your father’s warning. But most importantly, you have to ask yourself what YOU want because eventually, it would be you getting married and not your father. Of course, your father’s wish is very important, but let God and your heart lead you to the best man for you.

    I wish you the very best!

     

    SL Fabz, join in and give Zainab some good advice in the comments section.

    *Remember, if you have a challenge in your relationship that you need advice for, please send an email to info@stephaniedaily.com with the subject ‘Talk To Steph’