Category: Blog

  • Curbing Corruption in Nigeria: It’s Up to You & I!

    Today, I read the disturbing news that Nigeria has been ranked the 144th most corrupt country in the world.

    The report – Transparency International Corruption Perceptions Index 2013 – serves as a reminder that the abuse of power, secret dealings and bribery continue to ravage societies around the world.

    Why do I have the need to share this, you might ask.

    It's Up To Us

    Many times, we think that only the elected government officials are corrupt and make such statistics so outrageous. What we fail to realise is that curbing corruption and presenting our country’s image in a positive way is our collective responsibiltiy, everyone!

    It’s a typical Nigerian mentality for us to blame others for our problems, but this must stop. Young people can play a vital role in bringing greater transparency into governance and making the Government more accountable; ordinary people can play their own part by avoiding all forms of bribery and corruption and encouraging others to do so.

    I believe corruption will only reduce in Nigeria when each individual realizes that he is part of the corrupt system and stops his own corrupt actions.

    Let’s stop blaming others and do our own part. A better Nigeria is up to You & I!

    xoxo

    SL

  • Happy New Month! One step at a time…

    When we entered the year 2013, we said; “here we are again”. Another year, due to the so-called end of the world rumors going on last year, some people probably thought, there won’t be a 2013. But there it was, it found its way into our history and when we look back some years from now, we would have at least one thing to say. In 2013, I…

    One step

    In slipped January, the month to put your finances back in order after so much giving last Christmas, then came February; the month of love and then march marched in, April, May………one step at a time, making history on our tail (either good or bad).

    One step at a time, we realized our goal, one step at a time we moved on against all odds. Many things happened, things to laugh about, things that make you want to sit at a spot and cry for days. Some of us lost loved ones; some of us gained new ones. Some of us reached all our goals this year, while some of us; not all. But while we take one step at a time down to the very last month in the year 2013; getting ready to say our goodbyes to the year, we never let go of our hope!!!!!! Heck!!! Who knows what would happen in this last month of the year? Maybe you will win a lottery or that business you’ve been working hard to get will come through this month. Maybe bros would finally put a ring on it. It’s not over until it is over my darlings.

      Even throughout the hustle and bustle of the year, don’t forget the one person that made it possible. Do not forget the one that gives you the oxygen you breathe, the one that gives you life and the opportunity to hope, the one that protects you from all dangers and comforts you. You know whom I am talking about, yes you do… It’s him; the ancient of days, the creator of heaven and earth, the creator of you and I………JEHOVAH.

    HAPPY NEW MONTH FABULOUS PEOPLE AND MAKE IT COUNT!!!!!

  • HAPPY NEW MONTH

     

        There is a study that says,” human nature prefers familiarity”, meaning as humans, we dread change. As much as we claim to want change, we dread it for the fear of the unknown, I have met women that have endured abusive and loveless relationships, for flimsy reasons like ” I am thirty-five, i am not ready to start from the scratch, i need to stick to this one, I need to get married” and “i am thirty- eight with no university degree, two kids and no job, I am not particularly hot on the dating market”. Nobody said it would be easy but you have to stare at your fears in the face and triumph over it. It takes courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure. But there is no security in what is no longer meaningful, there is more security in the adventurous and exciting, for in movement there is life and in change there is power. So get up my friend and make something out of your life, quit that job that makes you unhappy and zaps the energy out of you, follow your dreams and start that business you’ve been meaning to start. Steve jobs says and I quote “your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life, don’t be trapped by dogma- which is living with other people’s thinking, don’t let the noise of other people’s opinion drown out your inner voice. And most importantly have the courage to follow your heart and intuition”. It’s not too late for you to go back to school and get that degree.

     

             Let’s make a pact together, SL FABZ, to make a list of our deepest fears and face them this month.
       Happy new month SL FABZ, go ye out and make a splash!!!!!

     

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 -SL

     

  • SCORNED (volume 2)

    I promised fun all the way, now that I am back, this is part of the package. This is the continuation of the Kate and Femi’s story. Enjoy!

    Femi shut the door to their room with a bang and like the door, all the feelings Kate managed to hide in front of Femi comes back with a bang. suddenly, cleaning her face didn’t seem so appealing as she messes up her face with hot tears, “oh my God!” she thought, what went wrong? When did this man suddenly become a monster? What didn’t i do right? 10 solid years. heeeee! chineke merem ebere! Where do i start from? Which man wants a woman with three children? tres? Hey Kate, you are finished; your life is over, choi! Femi, i love him, i love him so much, i can’t live without him or should i go and beg him and ask him to keep the shares. he can even marry that b***h, but please, biko! nkem, don’t send me away. She cries out loud; “no Femi, come back, please! please! please!” she stands up like a woman that’s just come to her senses but acts like a woman that’s lost her mind, she runs out of her house into the compound only to find her husband’s car gone. “Where is my husband?” she asks musa the gate man, the mallam looks puzzled but answers without questions, “oga, i don commot”. Kate shouts at the mallam impatiently. “i know, where did he pass? musa points in the opposite direction; “oga i pass that place” he says. “Kate runs to her car as she screams at musa; “are you dumb? Open the gate” she drives out of her compound in pursuit of her husband.
     She catches up with him as she corners his car, she goes on her kneels in the middle of the road; Femi comes down from his car and walks towards her surprised. “What are you doing?”, Kate replies; “Femi, do you want me to grovel? Here i am, please Femi, i will do anything, don’t leave me, i will be your slave if that’s what it takes for you to be in my life”. She holds on to his legs and cries into his shoes, Femi pushes her away from him and yells at her; “get up! Look at you, you are pathetic, that’s what you are” Kate looks at herself in an oversize top and a faded skinny jeans, it is dirty at the knee caps due to kneeling in the middle of the road, “and you wonder why i am leaving you for Denise, since you already know, yes Denise”. He spits on the floor; “you disgusts me” he says and drives away leaving her on the road.
      Tears streaming down her face like a tap spewing out water, “I am in trouble” she thought to herself. She tries to walk to her car but she couldn’t move, she seemed glued to that spot, her mouth wide open, the pain seemed too intense, she ached only in one place and one place alone, her heart, which she felt would burst in her chest anytime from now; “is it really over? Femi? What happened to for better, for worse? The vow we made before God and man. Her knees gave in under her and she fell on her butt, her mind still active. Her tears seemed endless, cars starts honking for her to leave the road but she couldn’t move. “It’s over; I just want to die now”

      Kate feels a hands on her shoulders; “are you alright, Maam?” she heard the voice say. She nods in her mind but in reality she didn’t. The hand moves her face to look at her eyes and all she could see were clear brown eyes, she asks; “are you Jesus?” the other person laughs and checks her pulse. “Where is your house?”, Kate tries to remember but all she succeeded in doing is mumble incoherent words; “it’s okay, i am a doctor i will take care of you” he carries her to her car, checks her driver’s license and zooms off.

      Hey Dearies! We had things to say about the first but this is a new one and it seems Kate is not as strong as she made us think. Do you think she made a good move by going after her man? What do you think will happen to Kate, now that she is in the hands of a stranger? Check it out soon; in the meantime feel free to share your thoughts.

    -SL

  • HAPPY INDEPENDENCE!!!

    BE THANKFUL…

    victory is ours!

    I love this country no matter what we might seem to face now
    all might not seem well and wow
    but this is what made us who we are
    strong and independent people of the earth
    with strong health.
    we have a lot of things to be thankful for my dear friends
    we are alive on this day, we are not slaves, our children blossom
    there is at least one thing that makes you wanna smile
    be thankful.

    No water, no electricity, no employment, shabby education system
    but through it all, people with diverse culture and heritage managed to be one
    through it all, WE ARE A NATION!!!!

    cursing Nigeria on independence day for not being like the USA is like insulting
    your father on his birthday for not been as rich as Dangote.
    be wise! USA is more than 400 years old, we are 53, a bright future awaits us.

    Be thankful my brothers and sisters because as long as there is life
    THERE IS HOPE
    keep your courage and keep moving

    You may not have a comfortable life
    you may not be able to solve the world’s problem all at once
    but do not underestimate the importance you can have because
    history has shown that courage can be contagious and hope can take a life of its own
    SO BE THANKFUL AND HOPE FOR A BETTER TOMMORROW!!!!

    – SL

  • Hello SL fabz- I’m back!!!!!

    Hellooo fabulous people, sorry for the break in transmission, decided to regroup and bring my fans something HAWTE!!!!! (Coming up) Anyway, I’m back now with fun, fun, fun all the way, keep checking into Stephaniedaily.com and I will make it worth your while.  Kisses everyone!!!!

                                                                                                   – SL

  • Hello Rubby!

    Welcoming my new pup ‘Rubby’ with LOVE 😉

    xoxo

    SL

  • ‘Flood With Love’ Campaign

    Great news people! Some of Nigeria’s richest people have come together to help flood victims in the country. A committee which includes billionaires Alhaji Aliko Dangote as the Chairman, Mrs Folorunsho Alakija as co-Chairman, Tony Elumelu and other philanthropists has been formed and they have so far raised over N7 billion for victims of the flood. Now they are asking other Nigerians to join them to rebuild the flood devastated areas. A lot of people affected are still homeless.

    Based on this they are about to launch a Flood Relief Campaign with 30 Nigerian celebrities from each sector; Nollywood , Music, Arts, Radio, CEO’s etc. I was one of them and here is my campaign shot.

    The smashing campaign is being shot currently and will be launched soon. Please join the cause. Let’s help rebuild the affected areas. (culled Linda Ikeji)

    xoxo

    SL

  • DYING TO BE THIN – Contd

    THE SCARY TRUTH BEHIND ANOREXIA AND BULIMIA NERVOSA

        Today health experts have discovered that young African females in the are starving themselves intentionally [anorexia nervosa], other women are bingeing and purging {bulimia nervosa} on the campus of historical African universities, while many in corporate Nigeria are crash dieting and abusing laxatives in a dangerous, sometimes deadly attempt to control their weight. But why are African women killing themselves to be thin? What’s behind the deadly cycle of eating disorders that is quietly engulfing some in the African society?

    For starters black women are no longer generally celebrated for their curves, some experts argue that for every beautiful and curvaceous Queen Latifah heralded as a standard of beauty on TV, there is at least 100 thin Jennifer Anistons, there is a growing trend of eating disorders in African girls and this is going to continue as the African culture becomes more immersed in the white European cultural values, today, it’s extremely difficult for an African girl to be insulated within the African community, so that she is not affected by the dominant society, everywhere she turns to uplifts the western culture, their so called standard of beauty, it gradually gets into her subconscious and she wants to look like the stars she sees on television.

    Recent studies have shown that some sisters, commonly considered to be overachievers, are more likely to develop an eating disorder than others because of their constant quest for perfection, other sisters are plunged into eating disorders by constant dieting, according to eating disorder specialist Shikana Temille Porter, PH.D, Director of Psychology Training at St John’s Child and Family Development Center in California “every eating disorder can be traced back to a diet” Dr Porter argues “the whole diet mentality, looking to alter your body because you are trying to fit into the thin cultural ideal within the society will cause you to restrict your eating, take diet pills and laxatives and throw up, this causes havoc in your whole body system and even death”

    Eating disorder can also be caused by life’s stressors and emotional trauma or tragic events, on the black living online website, Kimberly 29, says she quickly descended into a bout of anorexia after being date raped, Kimberly writes that she believed having a curvaceous body attracted the rapist, so she was determined to change her physique. “if I didn’t get rid of those curves, some boy or man was going to rape me again” she writes “I started taking over the counter diet pills, eating less and exercising more, my curves finally disappeared but my drive to keep the weight off stayed, I was obsessed with losing weight and not getting raped again, but my body was tired of the abuse, by this time, anorexia had taken over me. Kimberly also slipped into bulimia, she consumed large amount of food and then purge herself by ingesting ipecac syrup {commonly used as an emergency treatment for certain kinds of poisoning or drug overdose} to induce vomiting, as if bingeing and purging are not hazardous enough, adding ipecac syrup is especially deadly “ ipecac is hard on the heart and it weakened my heart muscles when I abused it” says Damilola Bada, an Oxford university student “I had a minor heart attack when I was 19” as with most people who starve and purge themselves regularly, Bada’s health problems are numerous “my teeth enamel is worn away {as a result of the } vomiting, and I have several teeth that are completely decayed” I also have intestinal problems; I must take medication in order to have a bowel movement.” Other health problems associated with eating disorders include malnutrition, dehydration, stomach ruptures, esophagus tears, serious heart issues and death.

    Psychological effects include, low self esteem, feelings of guilt and shame and depression. Not everybody was lucky like Damilola and Kimberly, some people lost the battle and died from heart attack.

    THE ROAD TO RECOVERY
    Recovering from an eating disorder entails at least three important steps:
    1) Seeking professional counseling to address the underlying emotional or psychological issues that may lead to the use of food as a coping mechanism;
    2) Seeking medical treatment to address the physical damage and to receive instructions on a healthy lifestyle and eating plan; and
    3) Finding adequate support system to achieve and maintain a healthy and realistic body image.

    Mothers, educate yourself on the signs of eating disorders, because it is more common in teenagers who are trying to look like their icons on TV, and there is a belief that African women are not prone to this disease, which in fact is a lie, there are a lot of African women out there suffering because they feel like they are not supposed to have this disorder; because it is a white girl aliment. Get involved quickly if you suspect a loved one may be afflicted by an eating disorder, sisters must refrain from judging their self-worth based on their dress size, strive for a healthy body acceptance and body esteem
    Adopt healthy lifestyle practices, such as exercising and making healthy nutritional choices, that are life affirming and life sustaining.

    WARNING SIGNS OF EATING DISORDERS
    ANOREXIA NERVOSA:
    • Deliberate self starvation with the intent of weight loss
    • Intense persistent fear of gaining weight
    • Refusal to eat or highly restrictive eating
    • Continuous dieting
    • Excessive facial and body hair because of inadequate protein in diet
    • Compulsive exercising
    • Abnormal weight loss
    • Sensitive to cold temperatures
    • Absent or irregular menstruation
    • Hair loss

    BULIMIA NERVOSA:
    • Preoccupation with food
    • Binge eating, usually in secret
    • Vomiting after bingeing
    • Abuse of laxatives, diuretics, diet pills
    • Denial of hunger or use of drugs to induce vomiting
    • Compulsive exercising
    • Swollen salivary glands
    • Broken blood vessels in the eyes
    • Mood swings
    • Perfectionism

    Take care of your bodies

    xoxo

    SL

  • DYING TO BE THIN – A story

     

    DYING TO BE THIN – The Scary Truth Behind Anorexia And Bulimia Nervosa

    It all started on that faithful day, precisely 07/ 10/ 2003. I was in my finals in the prestigious QUEENS COLLEGE, I was a plump teenager with curves and fat in the right places, with a full breast and round buttocks, I was the belle in my class. Well that was until the DSTV craze started and everybody wanted to be like the models they saw on Fashion TV. Everybody wanted to be ‘lepa shandi’, soon I was the fat and ugly one, but it really sank in when we went to our annual school programs where we met the boys from Kings College. My lifelong crush Damien called me a ‘fat b***’ and walked away with Laraba, the skinniest girl in my class, they were laughing, it hit me like a bullet and I felt so ugly and miserable, all I wanted right then was to be the skinniest girl in the world.
    It was hard at first, not eating! But when I thought about Damien and how much I wanted him to see me as beautiful, I stayed away from food! It started as eating twice a day to once a day to none a day, and soon I was going two days without eating. I was so obsessed with losing weight and becoming “the most sought after” again that I let it take over me!

    I lost the weight so fast, I spun! I was so happy, because I started getting more attention for my looks; there were comments like “wow! You look so fly, you’ve lost so much weight” and I felt good about that and I was even more determined to lose more weight
    So I stayed back and let it eat me up even more, when I went home for the holidays, mom kept shouting about how lean I am, and how she was going to give me so much food before I go back to school, I picked at the food when we were at the dining table, so mummy took me to the hospital where our family doctor tested me and gave me multivitamins, it made me hungry, really hungry and I couldn’t help it, so I ate, so much, mum was happy but not me, I was ashamed and depressed. I wish I could control those urges for food the drugs were giving me, I needed a solution! I couldn’t let myself grow fat again, I couldn’t miss out on my newly found popularity, no way I am letting that happen, so as soon as I finished eating, I go into the toilet and I make the food all go away, I induce vomit and won’t stop until my bowels are empty. It took over me, it controlled me, it made me sick, made me happy, made me ashamed, made me depressed because when I saw myself in the mirror, I looked like those aids patients I saw on TV, so skinny, but I can’t stop it, I’d rather be like this than be that fat, ugly girl Damien didn’t want, I am enjoying playing with Damien’s feelings, because he showers me with attention now, those are one of my happiest moments!

    The turning point came in the most painful way you could ever imagine, I was back in school, sitting in class jejely o, listening to my Government teacher, when I felt this terrible pain in my chest, I felt like my heart was going to explode in my chest and everything went blank. I woke up in the hospital next to my weeping mother, “Doctor, Doctor” my mother screamed. I was told I had an heart attack and that I am lucky I am still alive, but she is just 16, my mother said, the doctor said, I think your daughter might be suffering from anorexia or bulimia nervosa! Yee! Mo gbe! What is that? Does it have a cure? Will my daughter die? My mother replied in a rush of questions.
    THAT’S it! The enemy! I finally knew what her name is; Bulimia or Anorexia or whatever, “ope o, I survived, I thought; but wait a minute, what the hell is bulimia or anorexia nervosa?”

    Come check it out tomorrow as I give you the 411 on this deadly disorder. Keep visiting Stephaniedaily.com

     xoxo 

    SL