Stephanie Linus Daily

Category: Hot Topic

  • Did you know? Money is the Number One Thing Couples Argue About…

    If you think you can downplay money in your relationship, think again. Facts have it that money is the major cause for worry and conflict in relationships. Couples are having a hard time getting along because they refuse to have the Money Talk. As adults, realizing that money is a deciding factor in almost everything we do, it is important to give it he recognition and attention it deserves.

    Why do we run away from the money talk with the one person we wish to spend the rest of our lives with? Most of the time, it is because we do not want to come across as gold-diggers. But there’s a big difference between a gold-digger and a financially curious person. A gold-digger wants to enjoy what s/he didn’t work for, but a financially curious individual wants to know if your finances and money habits are healthy enough for you to be in a relationship; they interested in financial compatibility.

    Make the money talk a priority. Discuss ways you can improve your finances and how you wish to spread income across all your needs and projections.

    If you don’t settle your financial issues, it will cause unnecessary strain and stress in your relationship. Many breakups and divorces are caused mainly by bad financial planning and debts.

    Now you know. The major issue couples argue about is not who will cook the food or wipe the baby’s butt, the main cause of strife is MONEY. So talk about money. Be responsible with money. Start a proper saving tradition in your home, not just for you, but especially for the children you have or may have in the future.

    All the best

    xoxo

  • How do you respond to ‘I love you’ when the feeling isn’t mutual?

    Hey SL Fabz,

    I need your help with this tough question.

    What is the best way to respond to ‘I Love You‘ when you are not ready to say it back? How do you do this in a good way without hurting the person’s feelings?

    This question is for every one, the guys and the ladies. I’ll really like to know what you think.

     

  • Stephanie’s Poll: Language vs Music

    Hey Lovelies,

    I was listening to the radio yesterday when I heard this interesting question which I’d like us to discuss today.

    If God offered you super powers to do just one of these two, what would it be:

    Speak every language in the world or Play every musical instrument in the world?

    It’s a tough one for me because both are very relevant.

    Language helps you connect with people in different societies across the world. Language can literally break barriers and help you achieve more with your social connections. Music is also very refreshing for the soul. For instance, I love love listening to Jazz music, especially the instrumentals. It relaxes me and makes me smile. I also have it on sometimes when I’m working and it keeps me alert and helps my creativity.

    So for me, I think I’d go with the musical instruments.

    How about you? What’s your choice?

  • A Lady And Her Manicure

    There is this perception by most people that women who keep well manicured nails (mostly artificial), don’t do any kind of domestic work.

    A friend of mine brought this topic up again recently. According to her, her younger sister went to visit her future mother-in-law and when the elderly woman saw the young lady’s nails, she promptly told her in a not-too-kind manner that she wants her son to have a wife who won’t give her nails as an excuse for not cooking. The elderly woman said to her “Won’t you spend all my son’s money on fast food with nails like that?”

    The irony of this situation is that the elderly woman couldn’t be more far from the truth. The lady in question is a very good cook, infact, someone you would call a ‘foodie’. She is so good and passionate about cooking that she runs a food blog where she dishes lovely recipes to her readers regularly. She spends more time in the kitchen than the average woman. But her nails made her mother-in-law to be judge her differently.

    So, I ask, do you look at a woman’s nails and immediately come to a conclusion on the kind of person she is? Should this be so?

    Let’s discuss!

     

    (the picture used above is just an illustration, not that of the actual lady)

  • Should A Man Cook & Clean When He Has A Wife?

    Growing up in a typical African home, I learnt that some chores are meant for the girls and women while others are meant for the men.

    But as I grew older, I began to notice a reversal of roles. Some call it western influence, some call it development, while others would call it pure madness.

    We find in some homes these days that the woman is the bread winner. In others, men help their wives out in the kitchen to wash and clean. Lots of women are great drivers; while lots of men are excellent cooks and hairdressers… I could go on and on about different things men and women weren’t doing before, but do now.

    However, today, I’d like us to focus on the kitchen and domestic work. Is it ‘proper’ for a man to do the dishes and cook at home regularly? Remember, the emphasis is on regularly, I don’t mean just helping his wife out once in a while. If a man loves to cook and clean, should he stop doing it simply because he is married and now has a wife?

    Let’s discuss!

  • Hot Topic: How should she say no to her boss?

    Imagine this scenario:

    Your friend just got the kind of job she had been dreaming of all her life. The pay is great, the office location is favourable and the working condition is comfortable.

    One month into her new job, her boss starts making subtle passes at her. Her boss is a married man whose wife and children live abroad. He claims he doesn’t want an affair with her, but just wants to be closer than necessary. He asks her for dates often, wants her to come to his house on weekends, wants to drop her off from home every evening, and gives her more bonus than her colleagues.

    Every time she declines a date, he reminds her that he doesn’t want an affair with her, but just wants to discuss work outside the office. He also reminds her that he has the power to keep her in the company or kick her out. She finds this very uncomfortable, but is very passionate about her job and desperately wants to keep it.

    This is actually a real life scenario presented to me by a younger friend recently. If you were in her shoes, what would you do? How should she say no to her boss?

  • You Need To Read This Six Year-Old’s Definition Of Love

    We all have different definitions of love. Some are simple, some complicated, some get even confusing.

    But in the mind of a child, love is usually pure and simple. Just like this six year-old wrote. I found this so cute.

    what is love

    How would you describe her definition of love in one word?
    To you, what is love?

    Photo Credit: Kindnessblog.com

  • When Should The Genotype Question Be Asked?

    I was inspired to ask this question when I saw the issues raised on the last Talk To Steph post about Tayo’s Genotype Dilemma. She had been in a relationship with someone she loved dearly and fond out in the 10th month of their relationship that they both had the AS Genotype.

    You see, there is no specific length of time a couple must date before getting married. Some people have a two-month courtship, some have two years, while some date for even as long as twelve years.

    My question however is this: At what point in the relationship should couples begin to ask each other serious questions such as their Genotype? Also, apart from the Genotype question, what other important questions should couples ask each other as their relationship gets serious?

    Let’s discuss.

     

  • Today Is Friday The 13th. Is it really a bad luck day?

    I don’t usually take note of such negative superstitious beliefs, but three people have asked me this question today already!

    Friday the 13th, also known as Black Friday, is considered an unlucky day in Western superstition. It occurs when the 13th day of the month falls on a Friday.

    In fact, fear of this day is taken so seriously, it has a special name. The phobia, known as Friggatriskaidekaphobia comes from Frigga, the name of the Norse goddess for whom Friday is named, and Triskaidekaphobia, fear of the number thirteen.

    Today is actually the second Friday the 13th of the year. The first was in February and there will be another one in November.

    Many regard it as a bad luck day. The origin of this belief isn’t perfectly clear, but both Friday and, separately, the number 13 have long been considered unlucky. Sometime around the late 19th century, people started putting the two together to form the unluckiest day of all.

    While many will laugh off the superstitious day, others will remain in bed paralyzed by fear and avoid daily tasks, conducting business or traveling. I believe more in the power of faith and that my day will be however I wish it to be. Obviously, my wishes are always good ones 🙂

    How about you? How has your day been so far? Do you believe that today is a ‘bad luck’ day? Or do you have any recollection of bad luck on any past Friday 13th?

  • #WomenIssues: Violence Against Women

    Violence Against Women is a monster in the society. There is no better way I could put it. This type of violence is gender-based, meaning that the acts of violence are committed against women expressly because they are women and this makes it even more sad.

    Not only is it a grave violation of human rights, its impact ranges from immediate to long-term multiple physical, sexual and mental consequences for women and girls, including death. It negatively affects women’s general well-being and prevents women from fully participating in society.

    Violence Against Women takes many forms including physical, sexual, emotional, and mental. Common forms of violence against women in Nigeria are rape, molestation, battering, and corporal punishment, among others. The list is endless.

    Let me remind you of these shocking statistics according to the World Health Organisation:

    • Recent global prevalence figures indicate that 35% of women worldwide have experienced either intimate partner violence or non-partner sexual violence in their lifetime.
    • On average, 30% of women who have been in a relationship report that they have experienced some form of physical or sexual violence by their partner.
    • Globally, as many as 38% of murders of women are committed by an intimate partner.
    • Violence can result in physical, mental, sexual, reproductive health and other health problems, and may increase vulnerability to HIV.

    The sad situation is compounded by discrimination on the grounds of race, ethnicity, sexual identity, social status, class, and age. Many cultural practices and multiple forms of discrimination restrict women’s choices, increase their vulnerability to violence and make it even harder for women to obtain justice.

    This month is the women’s month, and very soon, we’d be marking the International Women’s Day. In the light of this, I want to point out that while there are many ways we can help curb this social menace, one important thing we should put more effort on is enlightenment. Our women need to be enlightened and educated about their rights. Many times, women stay in abusive relationships and endure different forms of violence because they feel they deserve it. This is totally wrong!

    Violence against women is a violation of human rights that cannot be justified by any political, religious, or cultural claim. Let’s spread the word today!