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  • Should I share my secret with him?

    Should I share my secret with him?

    Hey people! The last few weeks have been tough due to the Aluu4 issue. That event broke me to pieces, and I am glad some of the perpetrators of the hideous act have been caught. We will get justice for those young men (Amen!). So I am back to normal blogging now! Thanks for all the emails you sent! Below is the regular Talk-to-Steph. Let’s give some advice to Nina.

    Dear Stephanie,

    I am about getting married to my fiancé in a few months. I am so thankful to have met a man as caring as he is. We’ve dated for 18 months and he proposed last month, everything is set as we countdown to our big day in March 2013. The issue now is…I had dated his father a long time ago when I was a student in University. He was a randy man and used to come to the campus with some of his friends, and with the help of some popular male students, they’d organise girls for him. That was how I met him. I partied with him and his friends for like 6 months before I got pregnant but I got an abortion, and that was when I decided to stop seeing him. I missed the money that came with being his lay but I was proud of my decision. Many years later, I now work in a reputable firm, make my own money and I am a strong believer of God. I have a wonderful relationship with my man and it was whilst we were dating that I realised who his father was. The father is late now, but I’d seen his pictures on my fiancé’s phone and looked through the family album with my soon-to-be mother-in-law and was able to recognise him. The shock almost killed me! Deep down I feel so much guilt; but the man is no longer alive. Do I need to tell my fiancé anything about what I had with his father when I was young and foolish? – Nina

  • Attention! All aspiring graphic artists: Win N100,000!!!

    Attention! All aspiring graphic artists: Win N100,000!!!

    We are pumping things up this October as we introduce a competition for graphic artists. The floor is open; and it is time to show us how creative you are!

    Here are the steps:

    1. Send any work you have designed in recent past to: info@stephaniedaily.com and my fab team will pick the 10 best works from the bunch.
    2. The second stage will require the 10 lucky graphic artists to design a magazine cover page with a picture of Stephanie that will be made available to them!
    3. The judges for this competition and visitors of the blog will participate in the elimination process, until a winner emerges!
    4. The winner will win a whooping N100,000!!! (1st runner-up: N50,000 and 2nd runner-up: N30,000 respectively) from Stephanie Daily.

    It promises to be loads of fun and adrenaline rush! But first, send in your work, let’s pick our top 10!

    Tell your friends to tell their friends!

    The competition is on!!!

    *deadline: October 22, 2012*

  • Ministry of Indifference!

    Ministry of Indifference!

    “The opposite of love is not hate, it’s indifference. The opposite of art is not ugliness, it’s indifference. The opposite of faith is not heresy, it’s indifference. And the opposite of life is not death, it’s indifference.”
    Elie Wiesel

    Indeed, life’s greatest snare is Indifference. In my honest opinion, I believe it is our indifference to our issues (politics, socio-economic growth, education, and ultimately our collective dreams)  that keeps us drenched in worry, confusion and poor development in all areas of our lives – personally and as a nation.

    It’s been over a week since four young and promising lives were crushed out of existence; it’s been many months ago when a young girl was raped by five men and was recorded and posted on you-tube; many weeks of flooding in many areas in the Nation; and many other issues that we conveniently rant about for a few days and then watch as it slips under the carpet.

    Under the Nigerian carpet are many unresolved issues- issues we had once fought hard but not long enough for. These are issues that crawl out from their hiding place to torment us later.

    It is a vicious cycle of felony and neglect. Ultimately, it is our indifference that is killing us – not the many crimes that have been committed.

    If we can find our passion and run with it, no matter how small we think the issues are, we will change our society and break the vicious cycle so that our children can inherit a more stable society.

    Let us find the passion to fight for what we believe in. If we stamp our feet hard enough on the ground, the earth will shake!

     – Stephanie

  • Who will dry our tears?

    Who will dry our tears?

    I have been in shock since the news broke about the four young students slaughtered like chickens in a community called Aluu.

    At what point did we lose compassion for our fellow human beings? Death is assured for every life eventually, but no one deserves to die like those young men died – no one! Death dishonoured them. Even in justice there should be civility and modesty. That is why we are humans, and not beasts grovelling in the jungle. That is why we are made in God’s likeness so that we can be like Him – kind, merciful and fair.

    Ugonna, Lloyd, Tekana, Chidiaka were young men with dreams and aspirations; Lloyd was already on his way to becoming a rap artiste; who knows what else these men had dreamed up for their future? But with many swipes from heavy metals and planks their dreams were slayed. It is the most gruesome act I have ever seen and I am afraid how this action reveals the true state and sentiments of many Nigerians.

    Why do we permit jungle justice? Do we feel helpless with the system thus take justice into our own hands? What are our fears? What would ever justify the actions of a community that stole the lives of students who lived amongst them – lives that only God can give?

    We may never know the truth of what really led to the killings at Aluu – that truth died with the four of them. All we can ask is for justice.That is the only way the tears of the mothers of these young lives may dry. It is the only way we all can feel safe because no matter the situation, lives should not be snatched so brutally. This is a society with laws.

    As we seek for what is right, let death not procure more deaths. We do not need to burn down Aluu community. We do not need to shed more blood. Not every child, mother and father in the community killed or endorsed the killing of the young men. They too deserve to be protected from the brutality that has ensued from all of this.

    Life is a beautiful thing; do not steal another’s opportunity to experience it.

    May their deaths not be in vain.

  • I had a blast on my 32nd Birthday! *yay!!!

    I had a blast on my 32nd Birthday! *yay!!!

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    It turned out that a surprise party was arranged, spearheaded by my wonderful husband (heehee!). It was so beautiful because I wasn’t expecting anything, except a night out with him. So when I saw people arriving with gifts and merriment I was elated. Like everything else that he does, it was perfect! *Thank you, darling*Kiss

    I am eternally grateful to my loved ones! And like I said at the very beginning of the new month – let’s all keep our minds busy on all that is pure, true, noble, admirable, excellent, lovely, and praiseworthy!

    Thank you all for sharing in my joy. Thank you for all your wonderful comments on twitter, facebook, and on this blog. May you find the peace that surpasses all understanding!

    And for all the people who made out time to celebrate with me yesterday – you are loved, you are appreciated. God will reward you in His abundance!

    God bless!

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    –          Stephanie

  • It’s my birthday!!!

    It’s my birthday!!!

    Like fresh dew drops of a new day

    My life is renewed today

    I am a year older

    I am joyful

    I am flushed by God’s grace

    I feel so blessed

    My soul is delighted

    I will celebrate His goodness

    And the break of a glorious day

    This day that I was born!

    My future is resplendent

    I am here – God’s child!

  • Happy Independence Day, Nigeria!

    Happy Independence Day, Nigeria!

    “Beloved countrymen and women, on this day, fifty-two years ago, our founding fathers brought joy and hope to the hearts of our people when they won independence for our great country. Nigeria made a clean break with more than six decades of colonial rule, and emerged as a truly independent nation. That turning point was a new beginning for our nation.

    “Those who witnessed the lowering of the Union Jack and the emergence of the Green White Green flag continue to relish the memory, because that ceremony was not just about the destiny of a nation, but the future of a people.

    “That future is here; we are the inheritors of a great legacy that goes even much farther into the past…

    “On this special day, I call on every Nigerian to remain steadfast, because our nation is indeed making progress. I call on every Nigerian to rediscover that special spirit that enables us to triumph over every adversity as a people…”

    -Excerpts of the address by His Excellency, President Goodluck Ebele Jonathan on the occasion of the Independence Anniversary, 1st October, 2012.

    God bless Nigeria! Happy Anniversary!

  • These words…

    These words…

    “…whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy– think about such things.” – Philippians 4:8

    Happy Independence week!

  • I’m Loving!

    I’m Loving!

    The first time I read Eko Dialogue I knew I had to meet the author. Joy Isi Bewaji is an amazing writer, very witty and smart with words. Eko Dialogue is one of those pert books that gives you a real connection with Eko (Lagos). Joy explores the many voices that boom through this lovable but chaotic environment. When you read it, you can hear and smell Lagos through her detailed description of the metropolis. She’s the content manager/editor of my fabulous blog (heehee!) and we have a great working relationship and have been friends for a couple of years now.

    Eko Dialogue is a collection of short stories, and the shortest story(actually an anecdote) threw me off my chair!

    It is titled “Frustration-in-law”:

    A father-in-law’s list of requirements to his son-in-law to be…

    3 bags of rice. 3 bags of salt. 2 healthy cows. 1 pigeon. 5 white cowries. One feather from the bum of a penguin. An elephant trunk. The tail of a zebra. A fang of a crocodile. A scoop of sand from the river bank of Mississippi. A box of assorted lace material. One needle. 6 gallons of palm oil. One crab. One tortoise. A box of chocolate. A drum of diesel. 50 litres of kerosene. N5,000 MTN voucher. Educational funding for two of wife-to-be’s younger siblings. Five hundred thousand naira dowry. And a strand of pubic hair (yours please!)

    LOOOOOOOL!!! She’s working on her next book. I can’t wait!

    – Stephanie

     

  • These words…

    These words…

    From the 2002 movie, Antwone Fisher:

    “Now you listen to me. This is MY TIME! No matter what you did, you couldn’t break me. I’m still standing! I’m still strong! And I always will be.”

    A much older and accomplished Antwone Fisher confronted his foster parent, Mrs Tate, with those words.

    I get goose bumps every time I hear it. Powerful confirmation!

    Happy Thursday!Smile