Stephanie Linus Daily

Tag: Dating

  • When Should The Genotype Question Be Asked?

    I was inspired to ask this question when I saw the issues raised on the last Talk To Steph post about Tayo’s Genotype Dilemma. She had been in a relationship with someone she loved dearly and fond out in the 10th month of their relationship that they both had the AS Genotype.

    You see, there is no specific length of time a couple must date before getting married. Some people have a two-month courtship, some have two years, while some date for even as long as twelve years.

    My question however is this: At what point in the relationship should couples begin to ask each other serious questions such as their Genotype? Also, apart from the Genotype question, what other important questions should couples ask each other as their relationship gets serious?

    Let’s discuss.

     

  • 10 Things Men Notice First About Women

    Have you ever wondered why it seems easy for some ladies to capture the attention of men more then others? Many times as ladies, we think its just our looks that gives a good first impression on the opposite sex. Wrong!

    Ladies, its time to educate ourselves a bit. Here are 10 things a guy notices first when he sees a lady:

    1. Your Smile: A lady’s smile is often the very first part of a woman a guy will see. A lady with a scowl on her face is not often attractive to most men while a smiling woman is considered to be much more approachable. Your smile is one of the most expressive feature you possess.

    2. Your Hair: You’d be surprised how much men pay attention to this. And surprisingly, most women get it wrong about the kind of hair that men are attracted to. I know a man who tells me a woman who plaits her hair or has it in braids is the only kind of woman he gets attracted to. For others, it might be different.

    3. Your Eyes: A woman’s eyes tell a lot about her. Any confident guy would want to hold your gaze for a while. A lot of information can be shared through eye contact. Remember, ‘eyes are the window to the soul‘.

    4. Your Body Language: Do you walk tall and confident? Are you slouched? Do you have an upright posture? Yes, guys do notice all these and it tells them whether to approach you or not.

    5. Your Sense Of Humour: A guy would be very keen about you if he notices he can make you laugh. But he will even be more interested if you can make him laugh.

    6. Your Body: Believe me ladies, this is actually one of the first things they notice! Most men have basic specs of body types they like. Big, small, curvy, straight…. When you stand in full view of a guy, believe me, this is one important thing he is checking out.

    7. Your Friends: It is very likely that you’d share some traits with the kind of friends you keep. Guys know this, and so will judge you by these traits your friends possess. As the saying goes ‘Show me your friend and I will tell you who you are‘. If you have loud, rude friends, a guy might just assume this is the kind of person you are at first impression, even if you are not.

    8. Your Smell: Oh yes ladies, don’t ever forget this! Your smell introduces you, and lingers after you are gone. The question is what kind of impression do you want to give with your smell? Good or bad.

    9. Your Style: Do you have a great body but dressed in shabby clothes? Are you wearing the right kind of clothes and shoes for your body type? Are your clothes stylish or just plain? A guy notices these things at first glance.

    10. Your Attitude: One of the most important non-physical things a guy notices about you is your attitude. No matter how beautiful or attractive a lady looks, a mean attitude can send a guy running faster than you think. I know sometimes you might be having a bad day, but try to be nice to people you are meeting for the first time. You never know who he might really be.

    SL Fabz, do you have anything to add to this list?

    Ladies, what would you say is your strongest point? What do guys notice first about you?

    Guys, what are some of the first things you notice in a lady?

  • What Do Women Find Most Attractive In Men?

    It’s always so interesting to read your comments every time we have to discuss a topic on relationships. The last time we discussed something similar about what men find most attractive in women, we had an interesting debate in the comment section. I’m positive today’s topic is even gonna be hotter!

    So, tell me SL Fabz, what are the general traits that women find attractive in men?

    As usual, I asked around and these are the most common responses I got.

    1. A good physique: Most Naija women like their men tall, dark and handsome. Ok, maybe not all like them dark, but most likely tall and handsome with a good physique that speaks of confidence and good composure.

    2. A financially comfortable man: A woman is attracted to a man who can take care of himself financially, and also his family. A man who is financially capable of giving his woman comfort is usually more attractive than a man who can’t in most cases.

    3. A romantic man: Find a man who can say ‘I love you‘ at the right time, who knows when to take his woman on romantic dates, buy her romantic gifts… and you’ve found a woman’s man.

    4. ______________

    Let me stop here and allow you to complete the list. What do women find most attractive in men?

  • “Excuse Me, You Look Familiar”

    While growing up as a teenager and post-teenage years in the Secondary School and University, I must have heard these words a million times. This was the most common pick up line guys used to get the attention of girls and till date, it is still the most annoying!

    Even when it was obvious they had never seen me (or any of my girlfriends) before, they always said “Excuse me, you look familiar” just to get our attention. My girlfriends and I always had a good laugh about it.

    Over the years, I got to hear more hilarious pick up lines and some really creepy ones too and I’m in the mood for sharing them today.

    Here are some:

    Your Dad must be a terrorist because he made a bomb

    If I was a fly, I’d land on you first because you’re the shit

    Excuse me, can you give me directions to your house

    Oh, excuse me, but I think you dropped something (then he hands her a piece of paper with his phone number and ‘please call me’ written on it)

    My love for you is like diarrhoea, I just can’t keep it in

    If you were a fruit, you’d be a fineapple

    *Side note to guys: You really need to find more creative and confident ways to chat a lady up to get her attention and respect. Some of the pick up lines I hear these days are just crazy.

    So SL Fabz, lets have fun this afternoon recalling some of the best and worst  pick up lines you know. Tell us the best and worst pick up line a guy has ever said to you or you’ve ever said to a girl. This should be fun.

    Can’t wait to read your comments 🙂

  • How will you react to this!

    You’ve been dating this person for 9 months, then you get engaged…but the pressure of life comes in the way of your love and both of you couldn’t handle it.

    So you break up.

    Only to hear 3 months later that he/she is getting married soon.

    How will you react to this?