5 Tips to getting a good woman!

Ok! I’m jumping into the pool with this one. LOL! Since the blog started and people are getting a hang of what our focus-on-content is all about, we’ve been getting loads of emails on this-and-that. So I’ll take it one by one. Men have been asking: “how do I get a good woman?”

Here are 5 tips that can help…

Get a job:

A busy man is a very attracted kind. When you have a job it gives you a certain kind of confidence that completes your masculinity. As a man, you want to be in control, and financial strength gives you the ability to be in charge. Women do not take jobless men seriously; and having a job doesn’t necessarily mean you are locked up in an office, you could run your own business – no matter how small initially as long as there are prospects of growth, and a healthy sense of ambition.

Be a gentleman:

A gentleman means you do not kiss-and-tell, you do not hit a woman, you do not lose your temper unnecessarily, you do not get drunk, you do not act out your frustration inappropriately. A gentleman walks out of a relationship with the lessons he has learnt and his head held high – he is not vindictive and doesn’t keep a grudge; he attends to the emotions of women with care and consideration. He doesn’t act like a tout or make certain decisions that would harm another person. Nature always honours a man of that kind because they are rare species.

Look good:

Exercise. Lose the tummy fat. Wear cologne. Dress appropriately. Keep your breath fresh. Cut your nails. And smile. You can never go wrong looking suave. Like bees to honey, women will run towards you!

Be spiritual:

Have the covering of God upon your life. There’s just something sublime about a man that knows God. It’s in his eyes, his thoughts, they words that come out from his mouth, his attention to details, the way he attends to crises… there’s a glow to his presence; it’s like a magnet that pulls the right people to him. And with God, he has a discerning spirit to make the right choices out of life. Not that he is perfect, but he is made whole – in God.

Be the Head:

A man who can fix things, solve problems, run his life properly and those in his care shows great maturity and he becomes wanted by women! Learn how to be useful. Men want women who can cook and take charge domestically, and women want men who can fix appliances and make lasting decisions that they (women) can put their trust in! No woman wants a boy who isn’t sure where his next meal is coming from or what the nearest future holds. Women want to submit to men who can direct their path towards a course that leads to promise.

My honest opinionSmile. What else do you think we can add to the list? Let’s hear it!

Comments

  1. Shirley Nnenna Eluwa Avatar
    Shirley Nnenna Eluwa

    This is the best article I have ever read

  2. theresa Avatar
    theresa

    No 6. Visit stephs blog everyday 2 kip u informed…
    U hit it gal…u rock!

  3. Emenike Everest Uzor Avatar
    Emenike Everest Uzor

    You ve said it all…

  4. richard isiguzo Avatar
    richard isiguzo

    Hey I love those words..keep it up.

  5. Gloria Avatar
    Gloria

    detailed

  6. David Westerof Avatar
    David Westerof

    Tnx alot, cos u’ve discovered our thumbscrew…
    Then after all dis qualities, hw about d ladies? Hw do i locate d right woman, dat is attracted 2 all dis things u’ve mention, 2avoid gettin close 2 a wast-rel

  7. Tina Hermosa Avatar
    Tina Hermosa

    I’m really confused Stef.. I want to know if is right to date a guy whom am in the same level with in the tertiary institution?? People end up saying it wouldn’t work.. And is this really true?

  8. diogu chikadibia Avatar
    diogu chikadibia

    I tink i’v read sumtin like dis b4,itz al true…i jst want to add dat d guy must b honest2…neva lie 2 ur woman or would b woman..

  9. emmanuel gracephine Avatar

    wow! I love dis, keep it up.

  10. Richird Dienga Avatar
    Richird Dienga

    Thx so much steph u actually help me to make some decession about men too may God bless

  11. vivian Avatar
    vivian

    This is superb! Hope our men will learn from this!

  12. Benneth Doris Avatar
    Benneth Doris

    Steph u re blessed….I ve always admired u and thanks for this blog its really a blog i look forward to every day…..I hope the men will see this….God bless you and keep up the Good work.

  13. Victoria ibiam Avatar
    Victoria ibiam

    I love dis article,kip it up sweety!

  14. Marc le Pere Mwanto Avatar
    Marc le Pere Mwanto

    True d@

  15. Aji Ceesay Avatar
    Aji Ceesay

    I am with you on all counts, sister. My man needs to be a pillar of strength. I can never date a guy who is jobless on purpose, has bad breath, can’t fix a light bulb and has no connection with God.

  16. itunu Avatar
    itunu

    I loved every bit of the blog, we actually dnt need no 6. Kudos to u

  17. peace ossy Avatar

    truelly this blog has thought me alot,,,i ll keep them and act upon it,….

  18. jennifer egbuonu Avatar
    jennifer egbuonu

    good…now we ladies need to hear about “Tips to getting a good man”…**winks**

  19. lovely osayande Avatar
    lovely osayande

    nice article stephen keep it up cos u really tried in ur written good more of dis 4 our young men tanx alot

  20. Hannaniah Godwin Avatar
    Hannaniah Godwin

    I luv diz!!!!

  21. christy Avatar
    christy

    Love your article. But how do I get d right man.

  22. amenyedzi reuben ganyo Avatar
    amenyedzi reuben ganyo

    you hit the nail right on the heard thank u.am searching for my future partner and i think i will use your advice.+233249345417 is my number

  23. Alachebe chichi sussy Avatar

    A man should be honest in all he do

  24. Adaobi ifediorah Avatar
    Adaobi ifediorah

    lv u ma model, u got it all

  25. Adeolu Adesiyakan Avatar

    Wao!!! Having all these traits will have to make the chap super perfect. How about having all these traits as a man excluding the belly pouch, how is that then?

  26. ARUMORA OMINIGBO Avatar
    ARUMORA OMINIGBO

    THESE ARTICLES ARE WONDERFULLY GOOD I LOVE THIS.

  27. orukpe Avatar
    orukpe

    I love dis! 9ice one pls k it up

  28. ANYANWU RITA Avatar
    ANYANWU RITA

    to be candid, your words re great. you got it all

  29. Oby Jane Avatar
    Oby Jane

    This is one of the best post I have ever read ! Hope the men (the culprit among them) learn from this !

  30. Taiwo Avatar
    Taiwo

    Hi hi, you said it all Stephanie but I will just add few words to it. A man needs to be tolerant, patient and also have respect, a man who has ego I.e a man who’s full of himself can never get to anywhere in fact no body will want to get close to him. Most especially having the Fear of God is very important because the fear of God is the beginning of WISDOM. A man with a fear of God can never go wrong in everything he do.

    1. GINA Avatar
      GINA

      THANKS FOR DIS ADVICE,I PRAY OUR MEN CAN LEARN AND STOP BEING A WIFE BEATER FOR ONCE IN THEIR LIFE,

    2. chioma nwosu Avatar

      i hate a proud man,i hate a man that dont take care of a woman and also dont ve time for his partner sure man is not a husband material most women avoid them.

  31. Kate Solomon Avatar
    Kate Solomon

    I love every bit of the article. Pls let’s talk about the women. How do you know he is the right man for you? What are the qualities of a good woman?

  32. charyz Avatar
    charyz

    u r simply the best Stef

  33. Gift Avatar
    Gift

    I lv dis article,bst I av cum across.

  34. Cool Johnny Avatar

    Dis ‘ll make us to be on top of our home wit love n care. Thanks more of it.

  35. Cathy Avatar

    Not bad i will say. kudos

  36. Yahaya Leah Avatar
    Yahaya Leah

    nice one, keep the gud work rolling Steph!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  37. Nkiru Tony-Ugwu Avatar
    Nkiru Tony-Ugwu

    u hv said it all gal, good tips

  38. jacklin ben Avatar
    jacklin ben

    my sister u av said it all

  39. Aminata Bangura Avatar

    I like dis topic it very nice

  40. Clara Avatar
    Clara

    i love dis

  41. chicye Avatar
    chicye

    wow! nice one Steph,i hope dis goes along way in developing our men.Am in love with u and dis article 😉

  42. Ezeh Nkem Avatar
    Ezeh Nkem

    HIGH 5 to that one dear, you’ve got it all……. Keep it up Swt Steph…… Mur power 2 u

  43. majok duot Avatar
    majok duot

    perfect article,i lyke such.

  44. Jane Okenwa Avatar
    Jane Okenwa

    Nice one

  45. Atiso kehinde joy Avatar
    Atiso kehinde joy

    Dis is really nice. Do keep it up. More power to ur elbow.

  46. Caroline Avatar
    Caroline

    Most sincere article I’ve read in a long time,most especially number 1,money can never be underestimated in marriage/relationships.But most african men hide from this fact………….Step baby,u rock!!!

  47. Bolaji Avatar
    Bolaji

    U re jst to wonderful

  48. benedicta hanson Avatar
    benedicta hanson

    Very good article

  49. Genevieve Avatar
    Genevieve

    So on point……. Lovely

  50. Tolulope Avatar
    Tolulope

    LOVE IT !!! A man must also be fun to b with, he should have a sense of humour. Nice article steph

  51. mimi Avatar
    mimi

    Gud1 stef! D̶̲̥̅̊☺ kip it up, and pls we also need D̶̲̥̅̊ traits of a gud womam. 10x

  52. fomtina Avatar
    fomtina

    wow, you nailed it. Thanks Stephnie

  53. charles Avatar
    charles

    nice article…..but what are d qualities of a good woman

  54. joemay goroh Avatar
    joemay goroh

    Seriously this is nice. Thanks step

  55. Queeneth Avatar
    Queeneth

    You have concluded it all, baby!

  56. christabel John Avatar
    christabel John

    U r perfectly right any man wit dis qualities is will ever be every woman’s dream a big tanx 2 stephanie i ray 4 more grace and wisdom upon ur life.

  57. PHILOMENA FELIX Avatar
    PHILOMENA FELIX

    You have made my day, this is best article I’ve ever read.

  58. May Avatar
    May

    Kudos steph u re so on point…… Luv diz article

  59. Lucy Lu Avatar
    Lucy Lu

    I do Agree with what you have said Steph.I would like to add No.6.A man should be a RISK TAKER!

  60. Asentha Avatar
    Asentha

    hey, steph gal, u did hit the nail on the head,have always being a fan of urs on facebook buh ever since the introduction of ur blog,i have been so reluctant or say lazy to take a look at it and now that i’ve done,am so so hooked.keep it up, God bless u.

  61. Frank Avatar
    Frank

    Of course, the ladies would find this interesting. Goldminers! Not all great men come ready made. We’ve got a bunch of selfish women all around these days. Some of you will wait forever in the quest for Mr perfect!!!

    1. Rita Avatar
      Rita

      awww, poor you. don’t choke on your hate for women, ok? Get a job then maybe you’ll find out that getting a N10k gift for ur girlfriend every year is not “gold digging”. It is only the poor and frustrated that go on and on and on about “how she wants to eat my money”. How much do u have in ur bank account? eh? N100k or N50k…is dat the money the gold diggers want to eat? Everybody talks about what men want in a woman, for once someone is talking about what women want in a man. Take the lessons and becoms a better man. stop being so bitter cos u can’t get the kind of woman u want.

      1. timi Avatar
        timi

        L̳̿☺Ö̤̣̇☺ː̗̀(=)))ː̖́☺Ö̤̣̇☺L̳̿​. I dnt knw is own defination of gold digger self,stop been lazy no matta how love conquers all poverty frustrates love.

  62. sade osifalujo Avatar
    sade osifalujo

    this is a perfect article, u have said it all.

  63. peace Avatar
    peace

    stef my model i lov dis tips bt is for men, hw cn ladies kw dia right man?

  64. Warrie, Ime Avatar
    Warrie, Ime

    the 5 tips are ok, but, what are the 5 tips for womem. For if men poessess all this qualities and the women have non of this , what will be the situation then . I still needs your 5 tips to get a good wive as this will balance the equation.

  65. sulaiman Avatar

    What an interesting tips

  66. uzoagba chinedu jonathan Avatar
    uzoagba chinedu jonathan

    I only like a woman that I appreciate a man the way the man is without complain

  67. Eme Avatar
    Eme

    i love this article!

  68. sulaiman Avatar

    This is actually a challenge to men

  69. victoria Avatar

    You really do speak the truth! No woman will want 2 dance with a man dat don’t ave dream, ability 2 do things right, dirty, not caring, selfish, every woman likes men who can hold up to dere words. And any man who bit woman is a tout.

  70. cynthia nonso Avatar

    u no what u just make correct point there baby keep it up luv that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  71. Ebinum Patience Avatar
    Ebinum Patience

    This is good from good Stephanie well thanks 4 d talk.But is a challenge to all not 4 man alone .

  72. josephine Avatar
    josephine

    You hv said it all . It’s a challenge to Men.

  73. Dimkpagu Anthony Avatar
    Dimkpagu Anthony

    There are good,men like this, but Good women does not believe and appreciate them

  74. Ezeh chinelo Avatar
    Ezeh chinelo

    Stephanie I love u so much nd wuld rily lik to knw u personally bt I knw its jus lik asking u to cut ur head off ryt

  75. Chemical Avatar
    Chemical

    Steph,you got them all perfect but my advice to all women is dat no one is born perfect.Just get 70% of the tips nd help your man with 30% otherwise u may stick in your fathers apartment waiting for mr perfect

    1. Effiong Avatar
      Effiong

      @Chemical. I dont think this is a perfect list oh. This is actually the BASICS – a man has to make some money, smell good, know how to use his hands and brains, and be kind. That’s basics not perfect. A perfect list would read: a house in Banana Island and a mansion in Sychelles. A range Rover for work and a Limo for weekends. $5m reserved in a swiss account. 6-packs abs and a very handsome face (stephanie was even modest enough not to mention looks). My brother, get these basics so u can live well.

      1. Dozzykings Avatar
        Dozzykings

        @Effiong, even your perfect list isn’t perfect. but the basics are are perfect. One more thing….6pack abs you said. But its surprising how our ladies in naija get spare tyre all over and are looking for 6packs abs. loll

        1. Jessica Avatar
          Jessica

          girls don’t look for 6packs as much as guys drowl over big booty. so stop hating. take what u can from this and move on! You obviously don’t have 6packs that is why it is paining u! besides, stephanie was indeed kind enough not to mention looks. that shows women are not high on looks, we just can’t stand a man with alcohol singing in his tummy

  76. timi Avatar
    timi

    Hmmmmm so motivated,U̶̲̥̅̊ rule my world since my secondary school days,ur my role model U̶̲̥̅̊ stand so tall among women. Kudooooozzzz 2 U̶̲̥̅̊.

  77. debbie Avatar
    debbie

    Am luvin diz!

  78. Carchi Avatar

    Can’t get it into my strong head why a guy wil be asking his babe for money…. impossible!! maybe i need counselling.

  79. Ayo Avatar
    Ayo

    Thumbs up!!! you have definately ticked all the important boxes. Nice one Stephanie.

  80. Dozzykings Avatar
    Dozzykings

    wow!! This is the best and amazing truth you can rarely get from anywhere. God bless your wisdom and give you more. Amen!

  81. OGE Avatar
    OGE

    nne u ve said it all. now dats d ish. well done sis.

  82. ebele nwikwu Avatar
    ebele nwikwu

    ‎​​​✽̤̈̊Ŧɑ̤̥̈̊п̥̥̲̣̣̣kƨ̣̣̣̇̇̇̇✽̤̈̊ for those words Steph men should also Ħª√ę listening ears

  83. 2black Avatar
    2black

    Nice. Really nice. But in a country where getting a gud job is difficult. Should men without a gud job refrain 4rm being in a relationship? Or should women avoid such men?

  84. Sharon Avatar
    Sharon

    I really love this article it is one of the best article have read so far keep it up

  85. Daniel Avatar
    Daniel

    Hi steph, tnx 4 d blog, dis r d things evry guy shuld av or b 2 get d woman of his dreams, uv rily touchd so many lives wiv dis. & 2 d guys, 1 more tin, B URSELF, cos only by dis wuld u get ur own good woman.

  86. toyin balogun Avatar
    toyin balogun

    nice one eally. independence is a great key a man needs

  87. link Avatar
    link

    there is one catch there Stephanie. I can say am correspond but woman are just afraid of me. many of them tell me that openly and at the end they run away or don’t understand me.

  88. Metche Avatar
    Metche

    You have said it all. Men please If you can keep to the five tips above, you will get the woman of your dream.

  89. Rita Evbu Avatar

    wot a luvly work u are doin, Qudus 2 u 4 ur gud work. I will luv 2 see dis kind of gud work 4r u. D Lord bless u 4 the gud work’s and advises.

  90. jane Avatar
    jane

    i completely agree with you!

  91. dauda Avatar
    dauda

    hi, i want u to know u have tot well but u could get a fast guy wit all those quality n u will be attracted and if his aim is achieved or not u will still have d gratest hrt break. So most times is just God. And gals its also applicable to u too no guy as well need a total dependant too. Tanks DD

  92. Igwegbe ThankGod Avatar

    yea you are right carry go.

  93. may Avatar
    may

    i luv dis article stephanie more grace 2 ur elbow

  94. mary B Avatar
    mary B

    i luv dis sweety keep it up

  95. chika ozoagu Avatar
    chika ozoagu

    i love it keep it up

  96. amenyedzi reuben ganyo Avatar
    amenyedzi reuben ganyo

    steph, i really need to settle down very soon but i seem not to be in any relationship,so am seriouly searching all over the world for that lady that wil be the my heartbeat.call me if u that lady +233249345417 or +233266320964.should be independent,loving,caring,humble,Godfearing,faithful,hardworking,beautiful and intelligent.

    1. amenyedzi reuben ganyo Avatar
      amenyedzi reuben ganyo

      add me on facebook amenyedzi86@yahoo.com

  97. ESSIEN Avatar
    ESSIEN

    Thanx steph, you’ve said it all . God will help us men to be head dat we were made to be .

  98. Ify Anyaogu Avatar

    No 6, women want a men that will give them attention, No 7, women want men that will appreciate them tell how beautiful their hair look, how nice their dress is, compliment ur woman. No 8, women need men dt will carry them along in their decisions, No 9, women need men dt will be honest to them, NO 10, women need men dt will love them, just love her becos she is special. Thank u very much.

  99. lucheeez Avatar
    lucheeez

    stef,dats a 9ice one,cudoz

  100. Ofoegbu Juliet Avatar
    Ofoegbu Juliet

    My God dis is d most fabulous article i av ever read dis is gud keep it up.

  101. Chinonso Avatar
    Chinonso

    This is realy wonderful. Kip up d gud work.

  102. Joyce Avatar
    Joyce

    I love this.God bless you for everything you have said.

  103. Uzochukwu Avatar
    Uzochukwu

    Nice saying and to add to numb.2 ,a gentleman is also a man who keeps his word

  104. kindong victor chah Avatar

    you are God send espetialy to me at this moment when i am in a deep shit becous i did not know what to do to attract a woman to myself. Thanks alot. Keep on with the good job.

  105. Jessica Avatar
    Jessica

    Woooow i really love dis article n u’ve said all, this is hw guys shld be… steph u rock.

  106. OYEBOLA Avatar

    I love dis words of adivce.pls keep it up,i lean on each ur adivce.

  107. clairzmodelz Avatar

    stephanie,you are very correct. But most girls just don’t think like you. some of them are empty as basket without garbages but the want to marry good husband and some can’t even treat there spouse rigth. You need to talk to them please.

  108. reuben edem mccoy Avatar
    reuben edem mccoy

    i love what i read here and am still searching so i will use your advice.my contacts are +233249345417 or +233266320964.hey if you want to know me add me on facebook or call me and you will get to know me.

  109. Nkemuakonam Avatar
    Nkemuakonam

    When men start becoming defensive on a simple basic truth, be careful something is wrong. Steph didn’t say that u must have all de money in de world, but u must have something doing at least to be paying your bills and be in control. How can a man that cannot make a good decision be loved, and by the way do u think that love can fill that ur empty stomach if u are jobless and u are not doing anything about it. Steph u just said the truth not minding whose ox is gored. Kudos!

  110. Divine Avatar
    Divine

    Stephani, thanks for that. You are very intelligent.

  111. Adanu Isaiah Avatar
    Adanu Isaiah

    Stef what about going to the market, butik and super market and getin their undies, panties, bra etc, cooking for ur woman, been proud of her any were any time, making promises and fulfiling them, reaching and accomodating ur love’s family members? and a woman turns around and dump u for the reason dat u are not working, no car , no cash, no house, even when they seens to vissible prospect, I am a graduate with a Bachelor Degree in political science, dated her for years and after enguaging her with a gold ring she jilted me for a man with a car, and now i have a job and she is staging a come back what do i do.

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