Author: stephanielinusdaily

  • #TerrificTuesday: Be Gentle With Yourself

    “Tell yourself you’re beautiful daily. Be gentle with yourself. Eat carbs without guilt and remember that life is too short to worry about what others think!” – Demi Lovato

    I thought to bless you with those inspiring words by the musician. I find them to be significant and illuminating. Because, really, you need to be gentle with yourself. Be gentle with your decisions life. Be gentle with the mistakes you make. Be gentle with your convictions and how you approach others. Be gentle with the short or long arm of luck and grace on your life. Be gentle when you compare yourself with others. Be gentle with your failures. Be gentle even with your success. Time and chance, the Bible says. Will everybody have a moment of greatness? Probably not. But everybody will have moments  of opportunities. Be gentle when you miss yours, still.

    Just be gentle. Your spirit thrives better in a state of calm. Your soul lives longer in quietness.

    Even in the most unlikely places. Yes, Lagos traffic, especially! Be gentle.

    I know. I know. Tough call, abi? Take a deep breath when the danfo driver becomes a nuisance (ugh!). Stay calm. And let no one steal your terrific Tuesday and the message it brings.

    Love yourself. Be gentle

    xoxo

  • WEEKEND READ: “Lean In” – Women Work and the Will to Lead by Sheryl Sandberg

    Achieving work/life balance for women has always been a controversial and sensitive topic. That is one reason why I found Sherly Sandberg’s Lean In very interesting.

    Many times, women are made to believe that they have to choose between work and family. This “here or there” approach implies that many women don’t get to live fulfilling lives due to gender biases. The thrust of the book is that women do not have to choose between the two if they don’t want to – because both are equally important. It does not give the ideal fantasy that women can “have it all”, but preaches that women do not have to leave out one quality of life for the other. Rather than pursue perfection, Lean In urges women to push for progress.

    I recommend this book not just for women, but for every man who seeks to know what part he can play in attaining a fairer world.

    Here are my favourite quotes from the book:

    1. “Trying to do it all and expecting that it all can be done exactly right is a recipe for disappointment. Perfection is the enemy.”

    2. “Leadership is about making others better because of your presence, and making sure that impact lasts in your absence.”

    3. “Fortune does favour the bold and you’ll never know what you’re capable of if you don’t try.”

    4. “Knowing that things could be worse should not stop us from trying to make them better.”

    5. “If you’re offered a seat on a rocket ship, you don’t ask what seat. You just get on.”

    6. “Fear is at the root of so many of the barriers women face…Fear of not being liked…Fear of failure….And the holy trinity of fear: the fear of being a bad mother/wife/daughter.”

    7. “Feeling confident – or pretending that you feel confident – is necessary to reach for opportunities.”

    8. “We cannot change what we are not aware of, and once we are aware, we cannot help but change.”

    9. “Instead of perfection, we should aim for sustainable and fulfilling.”

    10. “What would you do if you weren’t afraid?”

    This weekend is a good time to grab a cup of coffee and bury your head in this lovely book.

  • Make Me Fabulous Season 2 Is Here! Register NOW

    Hey SL Fabz,

    I have some exciting news for married couples. Make Me Fabulous Season 2 is here!!!

    Yes, that Reality TV show that gives lucky couples a chance to have a fabulous treat is now accepting entries from interested couples for Season 2.

    For Season 2, we will be giving another set of 13 couples a chance to bond in their marriage with this Fabulous Treat. The fun, treats and surprises will be bigger and better… Trust me!

    Do you desire to have this intimate time with your spouse or do you know anyone who does?

    Send us the answers to the information below to info@stephaniedaily.com

    1. Your name and your spouse’s name

    2. Phone number, email and city

    3. Dress size, shoes size, shirt size, trouser size

    4. Year of Marriage

    5. How long have you been married?

    6. What are the major challenges in your love life as couple?

    7. Why should we Make You Fabulous?

    8. What are your favourite colours?

    9. Send a picture of you and your spouse.

    Don’t miss this wonderful opportunity. Register now!

    Send the information to info@stephaniedaily.com with the subject ‘Make Me Fabulous’ and you just might be called up for this lucky treat.

    Kindly note that entries are only open to married couples.

    Good luck!

  • 6 Reasons Why Women Need to Be Financially Independent

    It’s a Monday and I believe we have amazing goals we have set to achieve this week.

    Something interesting happened on TwitterNG last week that turned what was supposed to be petty trade of words into an epic comeback that set Twitter on fire. A young man took a girl to the cinemas and took to Twitter to rant because she refused to get into a relationship with him. After calling her a “broke ass hungry b****”, the lady in question gave him the comeback of comebacks when she replied his tweet with a break-down of the amount he spent on the date (N3800) and a screenshot of a refund to the guy (N5000). #KeepTheChangeBae

    Now, this conversation speaks to a larger societal problem that has deep ties in patriarchy. It is about men who feel entitled to things just because they are men and have more economic power than women.

    My friend once told me about a sister of hers who always complained that her stomach churned anytime she wanted to ask her husband for money. Imagine having everything including your every need and dreams tied to one man – that is not wise at all.

    Here are 6 reasons why I feel it is important for women to be financially independent:

    1. To be self-reliant: Making and having your own money means you don’t have to depend on anybody. Rather than living in an artificial bubble where you get to enjoy things that you cannot afford, being financially independent makes you cut your coat according to your size and spend your money in line with your values.

    2. It makes you self-confident: Being financially independent gives you the confidence to make your own decisions and live life on your own terms. Imagine what damage it would have done to that girl’s self-esteem, if the guy was able to get away with what he said. But she was able to keep her dignity and even sanity because she was able to prove that she was by no means financially disadvantaged.

    3. So there would be no surprises: This is pretty straightforward; if the man is the only breadwinner in the family, many things could go wrong. If anything happens, it would be difficult to adjust or adapt to the situation, and this would have been easily managed if the woman was also financially independent.

    4. To avoid resentment: If you keep taking from someone without contributing anything, there would be points where resentment would creep in. It’s simple logic! The guy could say “I go out every day to make money and you spend N35,000 on buying aso-ebi”.

    5. To stop feeling helpless: Many women stay in abusive or uncomfortable relationships because they feel they have nowhere else to go if they leave. With financial independence, a woman is able to make better choices for herself.

    6. It’s better for everybody: When women are financially empowered, they are also able to contribute their own quota on the home front and to the economy at large. It is better for the welfare of society at large to have more “Miss Independents” out there.

    Whether you are single, married or divorced, I believe every woman can and should be able to fend for herself. It just makes more sense to be safer than sorry.

    SL Fabz, do you agree with me?

  • Register To Win A Fabulous Treat In Make Me Fabulous Season 2!

    Hi SL Fabz,

    I have some exciting news for married couples. Make Me Fabulous Season 2 is here!!!

    Yes, that Reality TV show that gives lucky couples a chance to have a fabulous treat is now accepting entries from interested couples for Season 2.

    During Season 1 of the show, we gave 13 lucky couples a chance to bond with each other in a unique way. Their treats involved a night’s stay at a 5-Star Hotel, Luxury Car rides, Shopping, Beauty & Style Transformation, Exquisite Dinners & lots of Fabulous Prizes! All couples also got a surprise meetup with me where we had a chance to talk about love and relationships.

    For Season 2, we will be giving another set of 13 couples a chance to bond in their marriage with this Fabulous Treat. The fun, treats and surprises will be bigger and better… Trust me!

    Do you desire to have this intimate time with your spouse or do you know anyone who does? CLICK HERE to register and you just might be called up for this lucky treat.

    For more information, pictures and videos from past episodes of the show, CLICK HERE.

    Please make sure you read the Terms & Conditions carefully at the bottom of the form before you apply. Good luck!

  • 5 Fun Things To Do This Weekend!

    Thank God it’s Friday!

    The weekend is upon us, and it’s a great time to unwind and have fun with friends and family.

    Personally, I try to have the weekend to myself after a week full of intense work, but I don’t always get what I want because sometimes work also comes on weekends.

    Anyway, whenever the weekends are free, there are fun things I always like to do to refuel myself for the new week.

    1. Exercise: Many of you already know that I am on a weight loss journey, and I must confess it has not been very easy. I love spending some time at the gym and doing some Yoga on weekends not just because it helps to lose weight faster, it teaches me discipline – the discipline of doing what I want to do when I planned to do it. Listening to music while exercising is one way I also keep myself inspired.

    2. Sleep: Now this one is very important especially for career parents. Sometimes I always wonder how I am able to do so much with the minimal hours of sleep I get sometimes. Weekends help me catch up on “lost” sleep, and give my body renewed energy.

    3. Hangout with Friends: The social media age sometimes gives us the illusion that we know what is going on in our friends’ lives. But in reality, things may not seem as they appear. You could take out time to consciously visit one or two friends and family members during the weekends to be sure that your are building healthy and meaningful relationships.

    4. Catch up on Reading: Weekdays could be so choked that you hardly find time to read. How about blowing the dust off those abandoned books, and reading for a few hours? There are amazing things to learn when you bury your head in a book with a hot or cold drink (depending on what you like) to keep you going.

    5. Binge-watch Shows: It’s all about living a balanced life! There is no better time to watch your favourite TV shows “back-to-back”. Watching TV as a family is also good for bonding.

    That’s it! 5 fun things I think you could do to have an amazing weekend. I would like to hear how SL Fabz spend their weekends; do you have any fun things you would also like me to try out? Feel free to share with me.

    Here’s to a fab and super amazing weekend!

  • Throwback Thursday: Partying Like It’s The 70’s

    Afro puffs, bell bottoms and a groovy atmosphere! Betty Irabor, Editor-in-Chief of Genevieve Magazine brought her dearest friends and family together in Soul Train-themed party to mark her 60th birthday recently.

    Yours truly was also in attendance, and believe me, I had an exciting time!

    When you turn 60, you have earned the right to bring everyone dressing and partying like it’s the 70’s! The party attracted the attendance of notable figures, colleagues and friends and it was nice seeing everyone of them.

    Big Hair Don’t Care… Dress by Trish O. Couture
    60 never looked this good! Congratulations Betty Irabor.

    I wish “Aunty” Betty Irabor many more fulfilling years. May God continue to guide you and shine His light on your path. Your best days still lie ahead of you. You have indeed set a worthy example for many other young women in Marriage, Business and Faith.

  • Happy Mother’s Day

    Today is Mothers Day and its another opportunity for us to celebrate women around the world.

    Happy Mothers Day to every awesome woman making a positive difference in their families, communities & across the globe.

    Wishing all those celebrating a very happy #MothersDay.

  • Moms, Try Out This Beef Puree Recipe For Babies

    Moms and care givers in the house, this is for you!

    From 6 months old, parents usually begin to try out different foods that can complement breast milk and/or formula for their babies. Meat is an important part of a baby’s diet because it is a rich source of iron, which is important for brain development, energy and growth.

    I discovered this meal a while ago while doing some research on meals for my son and I’d like to share with you today. It’s called Beef Puree and I love making it with Potatoes.

    Beef Puree is especially good because the Iron in finely ground meat is more easily absorbed by the body. Iron builds red blood cells and carries oxygen around our body and is needed for brain development and energy.

    Here’s what you need:

    • Beef, washed and cut into small pieces
    • 2 medium sweet potatoes, peeled and chopped
    • 2 cups of beef broth
    • Fresh thyme

    STEPS
    1. In a medium saucepan, bring the beef, sweet potatoes, thyme and broth to a boil over medium heat. Reduce heat to low and simmer for 25-35 minutes until the beef is cooked through and sweet potatoes are tender. When it is cooked (not overcooked), take it off the heat and let cool slightly.
    2. Transfer all ingredients into a blender or food processor and blend. Add extra broth in small quantities if needed, until it is smooth enough for your baby to eat.

    Try this quick meal today and your baby will love it!

    Do you have any other ideas on how to include beef in your baby’s diet?

    Photo Credit: Babyfoode.com

  • The UN’s Publication ‘Africa Renewal’ Featured My Work On Fistula Awareness In This Interesting Article

    The Africa Renewal, a publication by the United Nations in a Special Edition on Youth 2017 wrote this interesting article about me and my work on raising awareness on Fistula through DRY. I am so honoured by this piece and would like to share with you:

    While still in her teens, Stephanie Okereke Linus was not just talented but also a rising star in Nigeria’s film industry, commonly known as Nollywood. What propelled her into stardom, however, was a socially and culturally complex movie on sexuality, Emotional Crack, directed by the prolific filmmaker Lancelot Oduwa Imasuen.

    By 17, Ms. Linus, an ambitious student studying English and Literary Studies at the University of Calabar (UNICAL), already had two Nollywood films under her belt—Compromise 2 and Waterloo, after which she tried her hand as director in Teco Benson’s blockbuster film Terror.

    When the opportunity came her way, Ms. Linus stepped forward without hesitation. Her outstanding performance in Emotional Crack earned eight awards and opened the door to new vistas and roles, including directing a film on another challenging subject —Fistula.

    The movie Dry, released in 2014, burnished her reputation as a major director and humanitarian. The film’s theme focuses on fistula—a devastating condition afflicting women, mostly in war zones and where child marriage and teenage pregnancy are common. It is caused by prolonged obstructed labour or sexual violence and leaves the victim incontinent of urine or feces or both. Unable to control these discharges, the girl or woman is often rejected by her community.

    Dry tells the story of a 13-year-old girl, Halima, whose poor uneducated parents marry her off to a 60-year-old man, who constantly rapes her. Halima gets pregnant and suffers obstetric fistula during child delivery. She’s abandoned by her husband and discriminated against in the society.

    Zara (Ms. Linus), a medical doctor who also suffered a horrific childhood meets Halima; she tries to help her get through her situation and also save other young women in similar circumstances.

    “I wanted to raise awareness about the condition and to help prevent more women and girls from becoming victims. I also wanted to inform women that repair surgeries are available and can correct fistula. Poor women can get free surgeries financed by donors,” she told Africa Renewal.

    The movie has received several awards, including the prestigious 12th Africa Movie Academy Awards and the 2016 Africa Magic Viewers’ Choice Awards, for best overall movie.

    Dry’s powerful message caught the attention of the United Nations Population Fund (UNFPA), the lead UN agency responsible for promoting reproductive health issues, including safe pregnancy and childbirth.

    “I recently screened the movie in Gambia in partnership with UNFPA. A month after the screening, to our delight, [former] President Yahya Jammeh banned child marriage in the country. We hope to screen the movie in many more places,” she adds.

    So far, Ms. Linus, now a mother of one, has starred in more than 90 movies since 1997 when she began her acting career and has become widely popular on the continent and beyond, where Nollywood films are staples for movie consumers.

    She has won numerous awards including eight nominations at the 2003 Reel Awards, receiving awards for Best Actress in English and Actress of the Year 2003. She also won the 2006 Afro Hollywood Award for Best Actress, and received nominations for various acting roles at the Africa Movie Academy Awards in 2005, 2009 and 2010.

    A highpoint of her career was in 2011 when Nigeria’s former president Goodluck Jonathan conferred on her one of the country’s highest honours, Member of the Order of the Federal Republic.

    Nollywood contributes some $7.2 billion (about 1.4%) to Nigeria’s GDP, according to the country’s National Bureau of Statistics. The industry employs up to a million people, the largest employer after agriculture. It churns out approximately 50 movies per week, second only to India’s Bollywood in terms of production quantity.

    Like everyone else, Ms. Linus has also had her share of falls and setbacks. In April 2005, while traveling for an awards ceremony, she was involved in a serious car accident. She broke her leg and had burns all over her body. But she bounced back to resume her acting career.

    “No one plans to have such an experience, but the accident was a life-changing one,” she reflected. “It made me appreciate life even more. The kindness that was shown me by many people during that period is also something I really appreciate.”

    She adds: “Being in hospital for several months made me aware of the shortcomings of our health care system. Since then, I have resolved to speak out for policies that protect the poor in our society.”

    Despite current challenges of funding and piracy facing the industry, analysts anticipate that innovation in digital technology can spur Nollywood’s growth in the years ahead. And Ms. Linus hopes to remain an active player in the industry—as an actress, director and producer.

    “I will continue to improve my craft in every way possible. As a filmmaker, I will do more films that inspire and entertain,” she says. “As an advocate, I will continue to raise my voice against injustices and policies that do not protect girls and women.”