Category: Make me fabulous

  • It’s Not Too Late For Your Dreams To Come True

    Don't Give Up

    It’s just a few days to the end of the year and I just thought to share this important message with you.

    I was having a conversation with someone a while ago and she was complaining about how she hasn’t achieved most of her goals for this year. Funny, I felt the same way too. There are certain things I set out to achieve this year and its already looking like those things might not be fulfilled this year. But you know what? They are my dreams, they are still mine and definitely I will achieve them when God says its time.

    It’s easy to feel depressed and focus on the negative things, the things you haven’t achieved. This is just a message to say focus on the positives and focus on your dreams.

    Your dreams are bigger than you. Your dreams are planted deep within your heart by Life itself. Your responsibility is not to make them happen, but simply to say, “Yes.”

    Along the journey to your dream’s fulfillment, you will face challenges that test you. In these moments things can sometimes seem tough. It can be easy to lose hope. You might sometimes wonder if your dreams will ever happen. You may even consider abandoning your dreams altogether, feeling as though you have given everything and not seen the light at the end of the tunnel.

    These are the moments that it is easy to give up. These are the moments most people give in. But these are the very moments to LIVE everything you know deep in your heart.

    If you are facing one of those challenging moments in life, but feel your dream to be truly authentic to your heart, then you must commit, continue and trust bigger than your fears.

    I wish you all a Merry Christmas in advance. Look beyond your worries and put a smile on someone’s face this season!

  • Stephanie’s Tips: 5 Amazing Christmas Gifts You Can Give To Your Special Lady This Season

    Christmas is almost here and if you’re wondering what gift you can give that special woman in your life, I have some ideas for you!

    Christmas is a special holiday when almost everyone gives out gifts to their loved ones. Hence, this is the best time for you to show your girlfriend or wife how much she means to you. Prove your love to her by giving her an amazing gift for the holidays. Most men really panic when Christmas is approaching and they do not have any idea of what to get. Have a look at some interesting gift ideas for women:

    Personalised watch

    1. Personalized Gifts
    With personalized gift items, you can have her name or a short message, embossed, carved, or printed on just about anything, from pens, to plates, to more luxurious items like wristwatches and jewelry. There’s absolutely no limit as to what you can customize. Moreover, since you are after unique presents for women, these presents are definitely the best option. Ordinary gifts do come and go but the personalized ones will be treasured forever.

    Jewelry
    2. Jewelry
    Women always appreciate jewelry so this is a great idea too. The best thing about jewelry is that they never go out of style so what you give her now will still look fabulous and trendy in the future. Some classic jewelry pieces that you can buy are gold bracelets, costume jewelry, beads, silver chains, diamonds rings, etc. There’s no way that you will go wrong with these ornaments as women naturally love all this.

    Gift bag of beauty products

    3. Gift Basket of Beauty Products
    How about a basket full of the best skin care products? It’s no secret that women love anything beauty related so you simply can’t go wrong with this. You can either create your own gift basket by buying items individually and nicely wrapping them up in a basket or you can simply buy a ready-made gift basket.

    blackberry

    4. Gadgets & Electronics
    The world today cannot function without electronics and gadgets. They are part of everyday life now so it makes sense to buy one for her as a gift. Mobile phones and laptops would be great because these are essentials that will help with her work and communication. Gadgets like iPods and tablets are for entertainment, just pick what she needs.

    date night

    5. Date Night
    Lastly, something simple like a special date night can also create a big impact. The feeling is even more wonderful if you and your girlfriend have not gone out for a while. Make her feel your care and appreciation by gifting her your time. Besides, dates can spark romance and rekindle your relationship.

    It will be Christmas soon and it’s one of the best times to display your affection to your girlfriend and let her know how thankful you are for her support and always being there for you. You want to convey your feelings in a unique manner. It’s is Christmas and she deserves a treat!

  • Curbing Corruption in Nigeria: It’s Up to You & I!

    Today, I read the disturbing news that Nigeria has been ranked the 144th most corrupt country in the world.

    The report – Transparency International Corruption Perceptions Index 2013 – serves as a reminder that the abuse of power, secret dealings and bribery continue to ravage societies around the world.

    Why do I have the need to share this, you might ask.

    It's Up To Us

    Many times, we think that only the elected government officials are corrupt and make such statistics so outrageous. What we fail to realise is that curbing corruption and presenting our country’s image in a positive way is our collective responsibiltiy, everyone!

    It’s a typical Nigerian mentality for us to blame others for our problems, but this must stop. Young people can play a vital role in bringing greater transparency into governance and making the Government more accountable; ordinary people can play their own part by avoiding all forms of bribery and corruption and encouraging others to do so.

    I believe corruption will only reduce in Nigeria when each individual realizes that he is part of the corrupt system and stops his own corrupt actions.

    Let’s stop blaming others and do our own part. A better Nigeria is up to You & I!

    xoxo

    SL

  • DYING TO BE THIN – Contd

    THE SCARY TRUTH BEHIND ANOREXIA AND BULIMIA NERVOSA

        Today health experts have discovered that young African females in the are starving themselves intentionally [anorexia nervosa], other women are bingeing and purging {bulimia nervosa} on the campus of historical African universities, while many in corporate Nigeria are crash dieting and abusing laxatives in a dangerous, sometimes deadly attempt to control their weight. But why are African women killing themselves to be thin? What’s behind the deadly cycle of eating disorders that is quietly engulfing some in the African society?

    For starters black women are no longer generally celebrated for their curves, some experts argue that for every beautiful and curvaceous Queen Latifah heralded as a standard of beauty on TV, there is at least 100 thin Jennifer Anistons, there is a growing trend of eating disorders in African girls and this is going to continue as the African culture becomes more immersed in the white European cultural values, today, it’s extremely difficult for an African girl to be insulated within the African community, so that she is not affected by the dominant society, everywhere she turns to uplifts the western culture, their so called standard of beauty, it gradually gets into her subconscious and she wants to look like the stars she sees on television.

    Recent studies have shown that some sisters, commonly considered to be overachievers, are more likely to develop an eating disorder than others because of their constant quest for perfection, other sisters are plunged into eating disorders by constant dieting, according to eating disorder specialist Shikana Temille Porter, PH.D, Director of Psychology Training at St John’s Child and Family Development Center in California “every eating disorder can be traced back to a diet” Dr Porter argues “the whole diet mentality, looking to alter your body because you are trying to fit into the thin cultural ideal within the society will cause you to restrict your eating, take diet pills and laxatives and throw up, this causes havoc in your whole body system and even death”

    Eating disorder can also be caused by life’s stressors and emotional trauma or tragic events, on the black living online website, Kimberly 29, says she quickly descended into a bout of anorexia after being date raped, Kimberly writes that she believed having a curvaceous body attracted the rapist, so she was determined to change her physique. “if I didn’t get rid of those curves, some boy or man was going to rape me again” she writes “I started taking over the counter diet pills, eating less and exercising more, my curves finally disappeared but my drive to keep the weight off stayed, I was obsessed with losing weight and not getting raped again, but my body was tired of the abuse, by this time, anorexia had taken over me. Kimberly also slipped into bulimia, she consumed large amount of food and then purge herself by ingesting ipecac syrup {commonly used as an emergency treatment for certain kinds of poisoning or drug overdose} to induce vomiting, as if bingeing and purging are not hazardous enough, adding ipecac syrup is especially deadly “ ipecac is hard on the heart and it weakened my heart muscles when I abused it” says Damilola Bada, an Oxford university student “I had a minor heart attack when I was 19” as with most people who starve and purge themselves regularly, Bada’s health problems are numerous “my teeth enamel is worn away {as a result of the } vomiting, and I have several teeth that are completely decayed” I also have intestinal problems; I must take medication in order to have a bowel movement.” Other health problems associated with eating disorders include malnutrition, dehydration, stomach ruptures, esophagus tears, serious heart issues and death.

    Psychological effects include, low self esteem, feelings of guilt and shame and depression. Not everybody was lucky like Damilola and Kimberly, some people lost the battle and died from heart attack.

    THE ROAD TO RECOVERY
    Recovering from an eating disorder entails at least three important steps:
    1) Seeking professional counseling to address the underlying emotional or psychological issues that may lead to the use of food as a coping mechanism;
    2) Seeking medical treatment to address the physical damage and to receive instructions on a healthy lifestyle and eating plan; and
    3) Finding adequate support system to achieve and maintain a healthy and realistic body image.

    Mothers, educate yourself on the signs of eating disorders, because it is more common in teenagers who are trying to look like their icons on TV, and there is a belief that African women are not prone to this disease, which in fact is a lie, there are a lot of African women out there suffering because they feel like they are not supposed to have this disorder; because it is a white girl aliment. Get involved quickly if you suspect a loved one may be afflicted by an eating disorder, sisters must refrain from judging their self-worth based on their dress size, strive for a healthy body acceptance and body esteem
    Adopt healthy lifestyle practices, such as exercising and making healthy nutritional choices, that are life affirming and life sustaining.

    WARNING SIGNS OF EATING DISORDERS
    ANOREXIA NERVOSA:
    • Deliberate self starvation with the intent of weight loss
    • Intense persistent fear of gaining weight
    • Refusal to eat or highly restrictive eating
    • Continuous dieting
    • Excessive facial and body hair because of inadequate protein in diet
    • Compulsive exercising
    • Abnormal weight loss
    • Sensitive to cold temperatures
    • Absent or irregular menstruation
    • Hair loss

    BULIMIA NERVOSA:
    • Preoccupation with food
    • Binge eating, usually in secret
    • Vomiting after bingeing
    • Abuse of laxatives, diuretics, diet pills
    • Denial of hunger or use of drugs to induce vomiting
    • Compulsive exercising
    • Swollen salivary glands
    • Broken blood vessels in the eyes
    • Mood swings
    • Perfectionism

    Take care of your bodies

    xoxo

    SL

  • DYING TO BE THIN – A story

     

    DYING TO BE THIN – The Scary Truth Behind Anorexia And Bulimia Nervosa

    It all started on that faithful day, precisely 07/ 10/ 2003. I was in my finals in the prestigious QUEENS COLLEGE, I was a plump teenager with curves and fat in the right places, with a full breast and round buttocks, I was the belle in my class. Well that was until the DSTV craze started and everybody wanted to be like the models they saw on Fashion TV. Everybody wanted to be ‘lepa shandi’, soon I was the fat and ugly one, but it really sank in when we went to our annual school programs where we met the boys from Kings College. My lifelong crush Damien called me a ‘fat b***’ and walked away with Laraba, the skinniest girl in my class, they were laughing, it hit me like a bullet and I felt so ugly and miserable, all I wanted right then was to be the skinniest girl in the world.
    It was hard at first, not eating! But when I thought about Damien and how much I wanted him to see me as beautiful, I stayed away from food! It started as eating twice a day to once a day to none a day, and soon I was going two days without eating. I was so obsessed with losing weight and becoming “the most sought after” again that I let it take over me!

    I lost the weight so fast, I spun! I was so happy, because I started getting more attention for my looks; there were comments like “wow! You look so fly, you’ve lost so much weight” and I felt good about that and I was even more determined to lose more weight
    So I stayed back and let it eat me up even more, when I went home for the holidays, mom kept shouting about how lean I am, and how she was going to give me so much food before I go back to school, I picked at the food when we were at the dining table, so mummy took me to the hospital where our family doctor tested me and gave me multivitamins, it made me hungry, really hungry and I couldn’t help it, so I ate, so much, mum was happy but not me, I was ashamed and depressed. I wish I could control those urges for food the drugs were giving me, I needed a solution! I couldn’t let myself grow fat again, I couldn’t miss out on my newly found popularity, no way I am letting that happen, so as soon as I finished eating, I go into the toilet and I make the food all go away, I induce vomit and won’t stop until my bowels are empty. It took over me, it controlled me, it made me sick, made me happy, made me ashamed, made me depressed because when I saw myself in the mirror, I looked like those aids patients I saw on TV, so skinny, but I can’t stop it, I’d rather be like this than be that fat, ugly girl Damien didn’t want, I am enjoying playing with Damien’s feelings, because he showers me with attention now, those are one of my happiest moments!

    The turning point came in the most painful way you could ever imagine, I was back in school, sitting in class jejely o, listening to my Government teacher, when I felt this terrible pain in my chest, I felt like my heart was going to explode in my chest and everything went blank. I woke up in the hospital next to my weeping mother, “Doctor, Doctor” my mother screamed. I was told I had an heart attack and that I am lucky I am still alive, but she is just 16, my mother said, the doctor said, I think your daughter might be suffering from anorexia or bulimia nervosa! Yee! Mo gbe! What is that? Does it have a cure? Will my daughter die? My mother replied in a rush of questions.
    THAT’S it! The enemy! I finally knew what her name is; Bulimia or Anorexia or whatever, “ope o, I survived, I thought; but wait a minute, what the hell is bulimia or anorexia nervosa?”

    Come check it out tomorrow as I give you the 411 on this deadly disorder. Keep visiting Stephaniedaily.com

     xoxo 

    SL

  • 7 Kindness Quotes ..

    Be Kind.

    Kindness, character

    Good point! I like!

    Kindness #love #battle

    #quote #saying #kindnessKindness...

    Kindness is one of the greatest gifts you can bestow.

    Be kind to people everyday!

    xoxo

    SL

  • Which step have you reached today?

    steps.

    Which step have you reached today?

    xoxo

    SL

  • Project ACT Scholarship

    Hello SL FABZ,

    PROJECT ACT-NOLLYWOOD: CAPACITY BUILDING FUND GRANT HAS STARTED ACCEPTING APPLICATIONS!!
    The New York Film Academy is coming to Nigeria for the 3rd time and guess what, there is scholarship available for those interested provided by the Ministry of Finance: Project ACT Scholarship. Visit http://projectactnollywood.com.ng/ and http://www.delyorkinternational.com/dca/scholarship for more details.For scholarship to the Del-York New York Film Academy Program 2013, complete your application now at http://projectactnollywood.com.ng/ for the Project ACT by Ministry of Finance scholarship. It’s a first come, first serve opportunity. 


    Good luck

    xoxo

    SL

  • BEAUTY DOESN’T EQUAL VALUES

    I came across an interview online which made me reflect on the issue discussed, so I decided to share, we are all probably guilty of referring to someone as ugly one time or the other. Hmm, read this

    “Tootsie” was one of the most successful movie comedies of the 1980s, but it left a serious impact on its leading man, who dressed as a woman for the role. Dustin Hoffman has revealed he was not only a bad looking woman, but that he also realized one of our culture’s greatest flaws while making the iconic film. In a video interview with the American Film Institute that has gone viral, Hoffman discusses his “Tootsie” role, in which he played Michael Dorsey, a strong-willed but out-of-work actor who lands a role on a soap opera by posing as character actress Dorothy Michaels. In the interview, Hoffman says that to prepare for the film, a team of makeup artists turned Dustin into Dorothy to see if he could look plausible as a woman on screen. With the right makeup and costume, Hoffman could pull off the ruse, but he was disappointed that he wasn’t more attractive.  Really disappointed.
    Hoffman asked his team to make him more beautiful, but he was told, “That’s as beautiful as we can get you, Charlie.” Hoffman recalls that when he saw himself as a woman, he started crying and told his wife:

    “I said I have to make this picture, and she said, ‘Why?’ And I said, ‘Because I think I am an interesting woman when I look at myself on screen. And I know that if I met myself at a party, I would never talk to that character because she doesn’t fulfill physically the demands that we’re brought up to think women have to have in order to ask them out.’ She says, ‘What are you saying?’ And I said, ‘There’s too many interesting women I have … not had the experience to know in this life because I have been brainwashed.’”

    Hoffman says he had an “epiphany” about how women are judged for their appearance — and realized he had been participating in the offensive behavior, ignoring women who weren’t quite beautiful enough…..

    Many have missed out on the best people for them, some men have missed out on the best wives and mother material, while some ladies have lost their way searching for the wrong things. I have been in conversations with ladies that said things like “I’d rather be single my whole life than marry a short man”.  A very talented and outspoken presenter material couldn’t get a job because she was not ‘beautiful enough’, the programme director thought that she is not ‘beautiful enough’ for television even if she was the best at her job. Flight attendants have to have a particular look (hot and sexy). Why is our society laying so much emphasis on looks? It turns the so called beautiful ones into arrogant ones because our society has made them look like idols (it takes the grace of God to be drop dead gorgeous and not be proud). The best balance is to be beautiful both inside and outside. Of what use is external beauty if the attitude stinks? And also, everyone is beautiful in their own way, beautiful spirits, beautiful features etc.

    Wherever you are, any part of the world, wherever you are reading this, never judge a person by their looks. Because beauty does not equal value.

    SL FABZ, Stay Beautiful!

    xoxo

    SL

  • Unconditional Love

    Once upon a time, there lived a little oriole named firebird; firebird just lived for the sunshine. He would bask in that glow for hours but then the rains would come and he would complain to his mother; he wanted to know why God gave the storms power to take away the sun, his mother would just smile at him and say; “you will know someday, when you take a walk on the clouds”. Over and over again the rains would come and over and over again firebird would complain to his mother until one day, a huge storm rolled in and his mother had a different answer. She said; “it up there, it all there waiting for you, you just have to see it”. Now, firebird was scared, he hadn’t used his wings much but yet he flew up into the great unknown but instead of answers, he was met with lightning and thunder and a howling wind. He feared it would rip him apart. He was about to turn back when it happened. He broke through the clouds and there it was, more beautiful than ever and in that moment it became clear; no storm could take the sun away. The sun was always shining, it was as constants as his mother’s love, he just needed to take a walk on the clouds.

    Life is so beautiful, so full of magic and possibilities. The storms of life are bound to come but even in those storms, in the loneliest times of all, you are never really alone. Love is the most powerful thing on earth (I am not just talking about the love between a man and a woman). I’ve seen what it can do and it can do amazing things. Sometimes I imagine a world where everyone knows a love that’s unconditional, what a beautiful world it would be and it is true that there truly is enough love to go around, all you have to do is share it.

    What if God’s love is like the sun, constant and unchanging? What if you woke up one day and realized nothing can take that away?