Category: Make me fabulous

  • 10 Simple Ways to Have Meaning in Your Life

    You might have success and happiness, but you might be looking for some ways to have meaning in your life to complete the picture. On the other hand, you might be in what feels like a constant struggle simply to make it through every day, not really seeing what is going on around you and just merely existing. Whether you want to move onward and upwards on your existing path or start a new journey, here are some ways to have meaning to your life.

    1. Step Out of Your Comfort Zone

    One of the best ways to have meaning in your life is to step out of your comfort zone. As we get older, routine and responsibilities mean that we very easily and quickly get stuck in our ways, and before we know it, we are feeling like we are trapped on the hamster wheel of life. If you had meaning in your comfort zone, you wouldn’t have this nagging feeling that something was missing all the time. Live a little, take a chance, let your fear of being trapped outweigh your fear of failure and just do it.

    2. Be Grateful

    If you want to create meaning in your life, one of the most fulfilling ways is to be grateful for everything that you have and so far achieved. If you are constantly fixated on the things that you don’t have, or that everybody else has, you will never feel content with your lot in life. Wake up every day and be thankful for your health, your family and your ability to earn a living, and you will immediately feel content and much happier and fulfilled.

    3. Trust Your Intuition

    Our intuition is our inner voice, a soul connection that is there to guide and protect us throughout our life. Our only mistake we make is when we choose to ignore our intuition and follow a different path. If your gut feeling and instinct are screaming at you, your inner voice waving red flags and jumping up and down when you are about to make a bad decision, take the time to stop, reflect and listen to what it is saying. Your instinct is never wrong, will never let you down and will never allow you to live a life without meaning. Trust your intuition.

    4. Health First

    One of the things you can do to give your life meaning is to focus on what is essentially the spine supporting your life – your health. When you are following a healthy lifestyle, are choosing healthy foods and getting enough exercise, you are looking after your body, which in turn is going to look after you. When you feel strong, full of life and vitality, you are unbreakable in life, you can cope better, work harder and do more for longer. Bad choices like excessive drinking, smoking and fast food diets along with a sedentary lifestyle are going to work against you every day in achieving meaning and fulfillment in your life. Only you can make the changes.

    5. Set Goals

    Setting goals and achieving them will give your life more meaning and enjoyment than you will ever know. Being able to constantly challenge yourself to make a difference in your life, your education, your family’s life and to uplift and build the communities around you is essential, but you need a plan to get there. Set out to achieve something life changing, work hard every day to get there and bask in the reflection of your achievement. Everybody wants to sit in the shade, but nobody could be bothered to plant the tree.

    6. Make Your Own Rules

    Work commitments getting you down? An insufferable boss keeping you at the office away from your family? Long commuting hours making you depressed? A manipulative and dominating partner or spouse not allowing you to create any meaning in your life? Time for a new set of rules – yours. If you don’t ever ask for change, the answer is always no. Sometimes, only you can make the change. And sometimes, changing the rules may mean taking two steps backwards in order to move one step forward. But, if that one step forward is in the right direction, it is worth 10 steps in the wrong direction.

    7. Spend Time in Nature

    Spending time in Mother Nature’s soul restoring playground is one of the easiest ways to add meaning to your life. Walk the dog in the rain, make a leaf and stick boat and float it along the river, let the sand sink between your toes and the sun warm your skin, let the wind whip your hair around your face while you collect shells, sit by a waterfall and say nothing, look for earthworms or head out on to a beachside. Nature has a quietly powerful way of reminding you of the beauty and joy in the simple things in life, it’s free and it’s all around us, make use of its magical touch every day.

    8. Learn Something New

    No matter how small or how big, take the time to learn something new. Take up a hobby, learn how to bake bread, take singing lessons, learn how to read music, go for foreign language lessons, spend time with old people – portals to fountains of wisdom – learn how to work with wood, make something, create something, build something and never stop learning. It builds friendships, creates confidence and creates meaning in all of our lives.

    9. Change Your Attitude

    Embrace your pet hates, your chores and the difficult people in your life. Make a conscious decision in your life to change your attitude towards events and obligations instead of wasting time harbouring ill feelings towards them. Focus on how good you will feel when a laborious task is completed, rather than wallowing in the feelings of dread leading up to the task at hand. Create positive meaning in your life by embracing everything that comes your way with a positive, can do attitude – your life will change.

    10. Ditch The TV

    Nobody looks back on their life and thinks, ‘’Wow, I really wish I hadn’t missed that series on TV.’’ Spend time with your family and your friends, play board games with your kids, get your dog off the couch and outside with a ball, tell stories, read, paint, do puzzles, play cards, knit, have a romantic evening in, make a meal together as a family and just enjoy the power of human companionship. One day the kids will have moved out, the house will be quiet and tidy and you won’t have any memories of meaningful times spent together as a family.

    It was Victor Frankl that said that “finding the meaning of life is essential to our ability to survive…” I have presented you with some simple, doable ways to add meaning to your life, but only you can make the choice and the changes you feel necessary. Life also has a funny way of giving you a helping hand if you open yourself up to its endless possibilities. Do you wish your life had more meaning? culled allwomenstalk  

    xoxo

    SL

  • You, Yeah, You!

    #quote

    Walk in the realization!

    Have a great week S L Fabz

    xoxo

    SL

  • Do me a Favour, would you?

    Do me a favour, would you?
    Go to your wardrobe
    Go to your box
    Go to your kitchen
    Go to your pantry
    Pick a few things
    Pack them well
    Give them out!
    The clothes you haven’t worn in years
    Those forty-something pairs of shoes for just a pair of feet
    The extra bags of rice
    The extra tubers of yam
    The excess groceries
    Infact, they don’t have to be in excess.
    Just give something out this weekend.
    Create room for more to come in.
    You will discover you can actually live without whatever you give out.
    It is a law of life,
    Sowing must come before reaping.
    It’s never been the other way round.

    xoxo

    SL

  • Control Your Anger

    CONTROL YOUR ANGER BEFORE IT CONTROLS YOU

    We all know what anger is, and we’ve all felt it: whether as a fleeting annoyance or as a full-fledged rage. Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems—problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life. And it can make you feel as though you’re at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion.
    These are some ways you could handle that deadly feeling when it comes:

    1) Give yourself a break. Make sure to schedule some personal time during especially stressful parts of the day. You might have a rule that the first 15 minutes after coming home from work will be quiet time, for example. With this brief respite, you’ll feel better prepared to handle demands from your kids without blowing up.

    2) Better communication: Angry people tend to jump to conclusions, however far-fetched. If you are in a heated discussion, slow down. Listen carefully to what the other person is saying. And take your time before answering. Instead of saying the first thing that comes into your head, think carefully about what you want to say.

    3) Relaxation: Simple relaxation tools, such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery, can help soothe angry feelings.

    4) Humor: Humor can help defuse rage in several ways. For one thing, it can help you get a more balanced perspective. When you find yourself thinking of a coworker as a single-cell life form, think what that would look like, picturing an amoeba sitting at a desk and talking on the phone. Or draw a picture. Doing so will take the edge off your fury or help defuse a tense situation. There are two cautions in using humor. First, don’t try to just “laugh off” your problems. Rather, use humor to help yourself face them more constructively. Second, don’t use harsh, sarcastic humor. Such humor is just another form of aggression.

    5) Avoid what you can: If you get furious when you walk by your child’s messy room, shut the door. Don’t make yourself look at what infuriates you. And don’t tell yourself your child should clean up so you won’t have to be angry. That’s not the point: The point is to keep yourself calm.

    xoxo

    SL

  • Service and Significance

    Service and significance.

    You are going to give your life for something. What will it be? a career, sport, hobby, fame, wealth? None of these will have lasting significance unless they are used to serve your neighbor.  Service is the pathway to real significance. It is through service that we discover the meaning of our lives.

    God wants to use you to make a difference in this world. He wants to work through you. What matters is not the duration of your life, but the donation of it. Not how long you lived, but how you lived.

    As we serve together, our lives take on eternal importance.

    How are you being of service to humanity today?

    Do have a great weekend!

    xoxo

    SL

  • Today Is A New Day..

    quote for todayHave any more to add? Feel free to drop below…

    Have a great day y’all

    xoxo

    SL

     

  • Take a Chance!

    damn it - so true.If you’re the kind of person who likes to stay on the safer side of things, you might not think that there are many reasons to take a chance. I used to think this way until I realized that I couldn’t live my entire life without taking any risks. Over time, you’ll realize that there are many important reasons to take a chance and become more comfortable with the idea of it. To get you started, here is my list of why I like to take chances.

    1. You Never Know What Will Happen

    One of the more obvious reasons to take a chance is that the outcome is always a surprise. Although there is a chance that taking a risk can end badly, you’ll never know if there could have been some really great outcomes too! And I don’t know about you, but the constant question of “what could have happened?” always nags at me if I don’t take the chance.

    2. You’ll Regret It If You Don’t

    Speaking of nagging, have you ever missed out on taking a chance and experienced that nagging feeling of regret? I know I have felt this unpleasant pang of regret one too many times. Although it can be comforting to take the safe side once in a while, I always end up regretting not finding out what could have happened. The feeling is not one that I find pleasant, so I like to take all of the chances that come my way. This way, I know that even if the situation ends badly, I found out what could have happened.

    3. You Only Get One Life to Live

    We only get this one life to live so why not live it up, right? It is scary to think about the bad things that might come from you taking a chance but, sometimes, it is even scarier to think about living your life without taking chances or risks. Even though you don’t have to take every risk that comes your way, taking a few risks here and there is healthy! But always be sure that taking the chance is right for you!

    4. You’ll Never Get Anywhere without It

    Life is all about taking chances. And you won’t get far in life without taking them. When you were little, you didn’t have to get up on that bike and start peddling, but you did. This simple example can be applied to every other aspect in life! Whether you are taking a chance at love, a career, or another life choice, you can either choose to take a chance at it or stay back in the outfield. But remember that if you stay in the outfield forever, you’ll never get up to bat. And that’s always the best part!

    5. Conquer Your Fears

    If you’re afraid of taking chances, believe me, you are not alone! I have been scared of taking risks all of my life. However, everyone needs to learn that being afraid of taking chances is a fear that you need to overcome. You can’t live your whole life being scared of the unknown. So when you’re ready, go take that chance that you’ve been dying to take. I promise you that it will be worth it!

    6. Learn from Them

    Taking chances is something that is easy to learn from. You can learn if you are comfortable with the chance you took or discover that you want to play it safe the next time an opportunity rolls around. You can also learn when it is the right time to take chances. Knowledge comes from experience. And the way to gain experience is through taking chances!

    7. Get Your Fill

    In everyone’s life there comes a time where you want to take chances. However, depending on the situations, this can become dangerous. Staggering the amount of chances you take will help you get your fill of risk and stay safe at the same time. Taking chances is healthy to a point, so take risks but stay as safe as possible at the same time!

    Taking chances is something that can take you to higher places and lead you to more opportunities! However, there can be some negative outcomes so you want to try to stay safe as best as you can. But sometimes it’s good to jump out of your comfort zone and take some risks! culled allwomenstalk

    Were you ever scared to take a chance? What are some of your reasons to take a chance? Let me know!

    xoxo

    SL

     

  • Quote of the Day

     

     QUOTE OF THE DAY

    “This life is what you make it. No matter what, you’re going to mess up sometimes, it’s a universal truth. But the good part is you get to decide how you’re going to mess it up. Girls will be your friends – they’ll act like it anyway. But just remember, some come, some go. The ones that stay with you through everything – they’re your true best friends. Don’t let go of them. Also remember, sisters make the best friends in the world. As for lovers, well, they’ll come and go too. And baby, I hate to say it, most of them – actually pretty much all of them are going to break your heart, but you can’t give up because if you give up, you’ll never find your soulmate. You’ll never find that half who makes you whole and that goes for everything. Just because you fail once, doesn’t mean you’re gonna fail at everything. Keep trying, hold on, and always, always, always believe in yourself, because if you don’t, then who will, sweetie? So keep your head high, keep your chin up, and most importantly, keep smiling, because life’s a beautiful thing and there’s so much to smile about.”― Marilyn Monroe

  • Hey, It’s Ok!


    We humans beat ourselves up too much over little things (maybe not so little) that shouldn’t even touch our energy. We pinch ourselves for thinking some things and try to reform to what or how our society feel we should think. Sometimes giving up doesn’t mean you are weak, it means you are strong enough to let go. Dearies, believe me when I say-
    Hey it’s ok!

    – To break up a ten year relationship that leaves you more damaged every year.
    – To spend 15 minutes lesser than you planned on the treadmill; you are just human and truth be told, e no easy.
    – To let your more employed friends buy lunch.
    – To buy sexy lingerie and call it your valentine’s gift to yourself.
    – To run in your ugly sweatpant because it’s not on your priority list to buy a new one, times are hard.

    This does not make you a failure, what makes you a failure is if you waste your time and energy thinking about it instead of trying to improve on your situation. Live a happy life, SL FABZ!
    xoxo
    SL

  • Today Is The Day…

    Today is the day, make it beautiful

    xoxo

    SL