Stephanie Linus Daily

Category: Relationships

  • How To Know If A Guy Is Just Not Into You

    Hi Sl Fabz,

    So this post was inspired by the quote below. I couldn’t help laughing hard when I read it. I have been in that situation and I know a lot of ladies here can attest to this too. It seems like you’re the only one in the relationship or the only one trying to make it work while the other person acts like he just doesn’t care.

    These are a few thing to watch out for to know if a guy is really into you:

    No Texting/Calling
    If he returns your calls and text messages days after you reach out and ignores the fact that he’s been distant, something’s up. A person interested in you wants to build the relationship and communication is a major part of that.

    Daylight Outings
    Does he take you out in the day time? Have you two even seen the light of day together? Gone out in public? Are your outings always at night? If all you two do is chill at the crib, you may have already lost. Tell him you want to spend the day with him outdoors and see his reaction.

    Cancelled Plans
    He plans a date with you days before and cancels just hours before it starts. A guy who likes you won’t cancel and if he does, he’ll immediately make it up to you because he doesn’t want you to leave.

    No Personal Interest
    If a guy shows no interest or excitement over finding out who you are, it’s not a good sign. When we like someone, we can’t get enough. We want to know every story, every detail. If a guy shows no interest in your life, your hobbies, what you enjoy, etc., he’s really just not all that interested in you.

    Serial Flirt
    A guy who flirts with everybody isn’t shy, he’s going to go after what he wants. So if you’re hoping that he’s interested in you because he’s flirting with you, but he’s not making a move and he flirts with lots of other people, it’s a sign he’s not into you.

    Have you been in this situation before? How do you know if a guy/lady is just not into you? Please share!

  • Dear Heartbroken Lady,

    I just want to start off by saying you are going to be OK. I know this might sound crazy, but this is the best thing that has ever happened to you. It may not seem like it, but I promise it is.

    Perhaps, now all you know is that you are in pain and hurt, and feel all alone, and knowing that tomorrow you will feel the same way. Trust me, I know the feeling.

    You feel weak, but you’re not. You are so incredibly strong.

    Do not think of heartbreak as misery, but as a blessing. Be thankful that you found out soon enough and that you can start over again. I know it hurts, it will hurt, and you will feel like your world is crumbling down around you and your heart is in physical pain but you will get over that. Losing someone who didn’t appreciate you is a gain, not a loss.

    Not everyone will love you for who you are, but who you are will always be enough, better than enough for the right person. People come into our lives to learn from us or to teach us and not everyone is meant to stay. There are so many reasons for this, and none of them have anything to do with you not being enough.

    Your life will turn around and you will be much happier than you ever were. 

    Stop spending so much of your time in the space of questioning where your relationship went wrong. He simply wasn’t the right person for you and that is great!

    You are beautiful. So your goal should be to want to be with someone the way that God see’s you.

    So chin up home girl. I promise you will make it through and you will wonder why it took you so long to get to this place.

    You are going to be OK

    SL 💙💛

  • Talk To Steph: Should I Move In With My Boyfriend?

    Hello Stephanie,

    I have been dating my boyfriend for six months. It has not been easy, we have had a lot of arguments and have broken up a few times. He thinks the solution to the problem we are having is if I move in with him so we can know how to live together. He says he needs to feel the presence of a woman in his house before he can propose or take me seriously.

    My problem is: my father will kill me if I do that. I told my boyfriend this but he says that if I am serious about the relationship and want to get married, I have to focus on him and not on what anybody else says. I love my boyfriend and my greatest wish is to get married soon, but my family are against it and I know that if I continue to delay, I might lose my relationship. I am 25 and I don’t have that much time to be jumping in and out of love.

    What should I do? Should I move in and later explain everything to my family?

    – Ijeoma

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    Hello, dearies! What do you advise Ijeoma to do?

  • Talk To Steph: If I have N5million in my account, how much should I spend on my wedding?

    Hello Stephanie, my name is Clement. I want to get real advice from your fans; from those who understand hard work and the importance of saving.

    I am a business man, still struggling to make good money and good profit in my business. I sell plastic chairs and plastic souvenirs for parties. The profit is not too much. But I believe in keeping the faith and growing the business.

    Stephanie, I will not lie to you. My whole account is just N5million. My wedding is coming soon. My fiancée has been bragging about big wedding to her family and friends, and this people… instead of them to advice her to slow down, they are cheering her on.

    The problem now: my fiancée is saying I should use N3million of my money for the wedding. I was hoping for just a court wedding and then later in life we can do all the noisemaking after my business is really big. But she doesn’t want to hear it.

    She says if I love her, I will spend the money on a big wedding.

    I don’t want an expensive wedding. I cannot spend N3m out of N5m saving for a wedding. I am looking for a court wedding and entertainment that will not be more than N500,000.

    The wedding is holding in November.

    Please advice me.

    *Hello all, please send your advice for Clement so he gets to weigh his options regarding what to spend properly. Thanks

  • #LoveThursday: What’s Important in Your Relationship?

    Hello Dearies!

    If you have to choose two ingredients in your relationship, which two will you go for:

    A partner who RESPECTS you

    A partner who pays you absolute ATTENTION

    A partner with a good SENSE OF HUMOUR

    A partner who has the FEAR OF GOD

    A partner who has MONEY and can buy you anything or take you anywhere

    A partner who is very BEAUTIFUL or HANDSOME

    A partner who is great in SEX

    Remember, just pick two!

    So, what’s your pick?

    xoxo

  • Quick Fix to a happier YOU

    Before you read the voluminous books to happiness, there are quick ways to stay happy.

    Here goes:

    Minding your business: If you stay away from other people’s drama and problems, you have a real chance of embracing true happiness.

    Show empathy: If you stop gloating over the pain and mistakes of others, you will find that empathy (or even indifference) keeps sorrow away from you.

    Have a realistic view about life. No fairy tales of a horse coming down from the clouds to pay your rent or wipe away your debts. If you want to be happy, embrace reality and start planning your life towards self-fulfillment.

    Don’t expect too much from others. Nobody owes you anything you haven’t worked for. So chill with all that entitlements. If you want something done, you most likely would have to do it yourself. Disappointment is cousin to

    unhappiness.

    Make the most of your uniqueness. Instead of trying to change what makes you different from others, accept what you are and channel your unique abilities towards success.

    Have a cold drink (or take shower) to take your mind off the stress of the world. You can’t kill yourself.

    xoxo

     

  • #WeddingAnniversary… I’m Grateful For 5 Wonderful Years!!!

    On this particular day, five years ago, God shone his ray of light shone on our Union and both our lives have never remained the same.

    Let your light continually shine upon us for without you we are nothing and with you we are everything.

    I’m very grateful to share life with my lover, my best friend, the best husband, Papa Maxwell…. Words alone cannot express all that you are and all you mean to me!

    Happy 5th year Anniversary ❤️❤️

  • Talk To Steph: How long should you date before getting married?

    Adaora, 27, has been in a relationship with Kingsley, 32, for two years. She works at an accounting firm, and he runs a furniture business.

    Adaora says Kingsley is “kind, fun, romantic, and supportive”. He is the man she wishes to spend the rest of her life with and vice versa. She wonders when is the best time to talk about marriage as he is yet to bring up the subject.

    She is not sure what to do. Two years is long enough to decide where this journey is leading to. When she brings the subject up, he tells her to “relax, fate will work it out”.

    Fate? Hmm! She believes fate is important, but the wishes and decision of two willing partners is all the fate you really need. 

    Ada wants to know: How long should she wait for the marriage proposal to come after two years of dating?

    What are your thoughts?

    xoxo SL

  • Talk To Steph: Ladies, Can You Date And/Or Marry A Younger Man?

    Ladies, get in here! Today’s topic is one that is always surrounded by a lot of controversy, but I would really like to know what you think.

    Many times, people say things like “Do you know that she is older than he is?”, “She is dating her younger brother’/son’s age mate”, “I can’t marry a man that is not at least 5 years older than me.” I know of someone who refused to continue a relationship the moment she realized she was a few days older than the guy.

    Our culture is generally not open to the idea of women marrying younger men and vice versa. The saying “Age is just a number” does not necessarily hold true in this part of the world when it comes to the older woman/younger man dynamic.

    Does the age difference really determine whether a marriage would succeed or not. There are examples of women that married older men who have successful marriages today; and there are women that married older men whose marriage did not turn out so well.

    So ladies, do you see yourself marrying someone who is younger, or better put, can you marry a younger man?

    Please share your thoughts on this.

  • Beating or Cheating: What is a deal breaker?

    First of all, I think this question is ridiculous! None should be acceptable in a relationship.

    However, I’ve been noticing this question trending on a couple of platforms and just recently, someone asked me the same question.

    It’s quite sad that women are mostly on the receiving end of this. Statistics show that women are most often the victims of domestic violence in relationships, and they are also the ones who get cheated upon most times. The fact that this question is even being considered in the first place goes a long way to show that we as women need to do more in empowering ourselves financially. We must also build our confidence and self-esteem, and tell ourselves (including our daughters, sisters, mothers and friends) that we shouldn’t just wholeheartedly accept such undesirable treatment simply because we are women.

    I do not really want to go into a rant about this, but this is how I feel.

    How about you? What are your thougths on this topic?