The people who you keep close will have a huge impact on your life.
Choose friends that will hold you accountable, be honest with you, and encourage you towards your goals and dreams. When you share your time with people that build you up and encourage you, then you can build lasting relationships. These relationships contribute directly to true happiness.
Studies show us that happy people that have better social relationships have more pleasant everyday lives. Put your
energy towards building meaningful deep relationships, even if it means having fewer of them.
Fill your inner circle with those who radiate positivity and lift you higher, bringing you feelings of happiness on an ongoing basis.
Let’s celebrate our friends today. Who is that friend who influences you in a positive way?
Yesterday was Valentine’s Day, a day celebrated around the world to show feelings of love, affection and friendship. Each year on February 14th, many people exchange cards, candy, gifts or flowers with their special “valentine.”
My day was beautiful and I spent it with my hubby as usual *wink* 💗 💗
How did you spend your Valentine’s Day? Did you give or receive any gifts? What does Valentine mean to you?
It’s okay to take advice from people who love and care for you, such as close friends and relatives who are single?
Many people will argue that there’s a reason they’re single and to be honest, they should be focusing on how to change that, and not be so concerned with giving you advice.
On the flip side, some single people can be so full of wisdom that they dish out good advice even in situations they have little or no experience in.
For me, this is the way I see it: Your friends and family can be very bias when it comes to the personal responsibility because they see you in a different light than your spouse does. They don’t realize that you function in a different capacity as a friend than you do as a lover, so they’ll almost always side with you if they’re biased.
So most times, their advice is not biased because they are single, but because of the relationship they have with you. That’s the way I feel.
What do you think? Is it OK to take relationship advice from a single person?
Yesterday, we discussed 5 Questions All Single Women Should Ask When Dating and I was encouraged by your responses. It’s good to know that we are taking our relationships more seriously and that we know the importance of asking questions before making assumptions about our partners.
Now, let’s talk to the men today. Here are 5 questions I think every man should ask in a relationship before things get quite serious.
1. What are you expecting from this relationship?
It is crucial to find out what point she is in life. Women are very sensitive about this. Her answer may also be dependent on her age, for instance, the answer you get from a 30 year-old woman would be different from what you get from a 20 year-old. Don’t just assume that she is looking for the same things as you are in a relationship. Ask.
2. Tell me about your family/ best friend.
Women tend to be very attached to their family and friends. It’s best you know the extent of her commitment to them at the beginning. If she has a very close friend that she is attached to, that friend might be the subject of an argument later on if you are not comfortable with it. Also, her relationship with her parents might directly or indirectly affect her relationship with you in future.
3. How do you manage money?
Money matters are very important in every relationship. It could make or mar your relationship or marriage if that’s a plan for both of you. So be sure she can at least manage to keep a budget and not spend all of your money. On the other hand, she may be very prudent and be a better money manager than you so you can let her handle that aspect.
4. What happened in your last relationship?
This question applies to both men and women. Everyone needs to know this. Find out what led to the end of her past relationship and if she admits what her own faults were. This will help you both avoid making the same mistakes again.
5. Can you cook?
I know this is very important to most (not all) Nigerian men. If you are very particular about who cooks your meals, then you should find out if she can conveniently handle preparing you breakfast, lunch and dinner always. If you are OK with having a cook or a maid handling that, then it shouldn’t be an issue. But please don’t say you don’t mind whether she can cook or not now, and then make it an issue later on in the relationship/marriage. It also helps to ask what she loves to cook and if she is willing to learn how to prepare meals you like that she probably cannot handle.
So, what do you think? What other question(s) should a man ask a woman whom he wants to have a serious relationship with?
It’s a new year and just like lots of people, you might be planning to start a new relationship this year. This is a good thing, but ladies, before you get too attached to that man and find out he is not the one for you, there are some important questions you need to ask at the start of a relationship.
Here are 5 questions I think are truly important to ask:
1. Why do you choose me?
You might think that any lady asking this question is insecure about herself, but in this context, it is a question a confident woman should ask. This is not a question that is asked because you don’t feel you deserve to be chosen, but a question you should ask to know his reason. Why do you like me? Why are you attracted to me? What is it about me that made you ask me out? His answer to this question will tell you whether he want you just for a shallow reason or if his feelings run deep.
2. What are you looking for in a relationship?
Next, you should want to know what he really wants from you. This may strike some as too pointed but many ladies make the mistake of assuming a guy wants something serious when he doesn’t or that he just wants a fling when he is in for the long term. He might respond, “Fun and companionship. I’m not interested in anything serious right now” , or “I’m looking for someone who shares my values and wants to explore a future together.” This prepares you for the future.
3. What exactly happened in your last relationship?
Everybody has things they don’t want to talk about and that’s fine. Your last relationship is not one of those things that you can really hold onto yourself because it really affects your next relationship. That’s why you have to have this conversation at some point. You need to know if they were cheated on or cheated in their last relationship, which may be an indication of trust issues that may have developed. You need to know if they dated someone who was abusive or too submissive, or if perhaps this is their first ever relationship. Ask questions to avoid unpleasant surprises later on.
4. What kind of relationship do you have with God?
It is very important to know what type of person you are dealing with. He might seem to be the love of your life but he may be an atheist. You need to know where his spiritual life resides. You need to be sure that you both share some common ground and can build each other up spiritually.
5. What are your long-term goals?
Every man needs to have a plan and those plans should be different from the short-term goals. If they’re not different, then he’s not really planning. You need this information to decide whether you want to attach yourself to his plan and take the relationship to the next level. It’s very possible that you’ll like a man and his short term goals, but he doesn’t have a good vision for his future in the long term. This might not be the kind of person you want to attach yourself with for a long period of time.
This list doesn’t contain every single important question so I’d like you to help me out with some more. What important question(s) should a lady ask a man at the start of a relationship?
Tomorrow, we’ll discuss questions a single guy should ask a lady so watch out for that 💜
Today, I’d like us to discuss a very interesting topic – Relationships!
It’s totally natural for you to tell your closest friends about what’s going on in your relationship, but that doesn’t mean you should share everything. There is a difference between privacy and secrecy, and anytime you disclose private information, it is no longer private. You may have been saying a little too much to your girlfriends if you are guilty of sharing the following information too freely.
Unless your relationship isn’t that serious or is just starting up, it is abusive, or you are definitely breaking up or getting a divorce, it’s advisable keep your mouth shut about your relationship problems to friends and family. In other words, if you are in a serious relationship or are married and you want things to work out despite your difficulties, my advice is to keep things as private as possible.
Truly, there are loads of things you should not tell your friends about your relationship, but here are a few:
Your partner’s income: This is especially for the ladies. How much your man earns is really none of your friend’s business. It is between you and your man and shouldn’t involve a third party, not even your girlfriend who has been with you since you were a toddler.
His flaws and bad habits: If you tell your friends that your husband always leaves the toilet seat up or leaves his wet towel on the floor, they could blow that tiny flaw way out of proportion and upset you even more about the issue.
The super intimate stuff: What happens in the bedroom, should stay in the bedroom. Never, and I mean NEVER, let out your intimacy details to your friends. It’s not only bad if your husband or wife gets to hear it from someone else, it’s just embarrassing. Only you can make your friends respect your spouse and the intimate details should be kept from even the closest of friends.
When one of you cheats: Whether it was an emotional or physical affair, any acts that had you or your partner straying outside your relationship need to be kept quiet, especially if it does not lead to an end of the relationship. It’s common to want to vent to someone else say, your mom or your best friend, but that can irreparably damage their opinion of your partner. And while that may be not a bad idea if the two of you decide to separate, if you want to make a comeback it’ll be that much harder.
What he thinks about other people: Everyone has their opinions about other people, both good and bad. If he criticizes someone to you, then he does it in the strictest confidence, so keep it to yourself or before you know it, that criticism could get back to the person he was talking about with some awkward consequences.
Comparing: Unless you want your friends to think negatively about your partner, don’t compare them to others in front of your friends. We all go through ups and downs in relationships, it doesn’t mean you run off crying to your Friends about how your ex was so much better. These kind of things don’t go away, they usually travel to your partner somehow and it hurts them when they get to know how badly you talk about them and how little you try to make your friends respect them.
Don’t tell your friend’s about your spouse’s past: This might sound like a nice story to tell about how you changed your player husband into a one-woman man, but to your girlfriends it’s probably a red flag. Once they know that your man has a shady past, they begin to expect the worst from him. If they don’t know about his wild past already then don’t disclose it.
So, let’s share our experiences. Do you have anything you’ve shared about your partner in the past that was later used against you? What other things about your relationships do you think must not be shared with your friends?
When a man wants to choose a wife, he looks for someone he is physically attracted to, someone who is pretty, and in most cases, someone who is hot.
Linda must have grabbed the attention of her husband while they were dating but after two kids and a few years of marriage, she didn’t look too ‘hot’ for her husband anymore.
This is how she put it on my blog Stephaniedaily when we called for entries for the show.
I’m a 29yr old mother of 2.just last week my husband told me that I have what it takes to be hot but I’m not hot, it hurt my feelings. Stephanie pls make me fabulous so that I can stun him, make his jaw drop.
I strongly believe that no other woman is supposed to make her husband’s jaw drop apart from his wife so I took Linda’s story really personal and together with the amazing team of stylists on the Make Me Fabulous show, we decided to give Linda a transformation that would stun her husband.
Linda and her husband live in Abuja, so they were chauffeured driven to the airport, flown down to Lagos where the treat of a lifetime began. For them, it was very refreshing to be in a new city and they eagerly looked forward to what the day would unfold.
For a fabulous time, we lodged them at the Avenue Suites, Victoria Island. After getting familiar with their suite, we took Linda out to start the transformation we promised her.
First stop was the Mango Store where she met with celebrity stylist Ebun Aboderin who helped her pick the perfect dress to wow her husband.
Celebrity hair stylist Nancy at Davnans Hair & Beauty Salon did her magic on Lynda’s hair to bring out that hidden beauty she’s always had. For that pampering touch to ease the stress away, the masseuse at Beauty Concerns gave Linda a full body massage.
Linda needed the perfect makeover and celebrity makeup artist Lola Maja was just the right person for the job.
After transforming Linda and making her look ‘hot’, she met up with her husband for a romantic dinner.
Here are some lovely pictures from their fabulous treat:
Shopping with Celebrity Stylist Ebun Aboderin at the Mango Store.Here’s the result of the stunning transformation! Isn’t she hot?She creeps up behind her husband to surprise him.WOW!!! He can’t believe his eyes.Still admiring her beauty!She looks so beautiful and ‘hot’, doesn’t she?After their dinner, I made my way to meet the couple. They weren’t expecting me…Surprise!!!More treats for the lovely couple! An LCD TV from LG.Lovely wrist watches from SwatchAnd a gift card from Mango.It was truly wonderful meeting this lovely couple and I’m glad they had such a fabulous time!
Many thanks to our lovely sponsors:
Avenue Suites; Celebrity Stylist Ebun Aboderin; Celebrity Hair Stylist Nancy; Professional Makeup Artist Lola Maja-Okojevoh; Beauty Concerns; Swatch; Mango & LG Electronics.
Love people for who they are instead of judging them for who they are not.
The last Sunday in July is already here!
Is it just me or is this year moving really fast. It seems just like yesterday we wished each other a happy new year and now, the second half of the year is already moving on.
Something struck me recently which I’d like to share with you. When we’re fighting with people we love, it can become hard to see the good in them. It’s easy to pick out people’s faults. We subconsciously keep track of all the flaws of all the people in our lives.
Whether someone is vain, self-centered, arrogant, petty, bitter, or obnoxious, we can easily slap a label on every person we meet. We see the faults of politicians, celebrities, but we also know the flaws of people in our everyday lives, whether our family members, friends or co-workers…it’s very easy to find faults.
But did you know this: Our days are happier when we give people a bit of our heart rather than a piece of our mind.
Seeing the good in other people is not just necessary for giving good compliments; it also substantially improves your own happiness.
It’s my wish that we continue the year by becoming more proficient in finding positive aspects in other people. And by so doing, we get better at seeing positive aspects of ourselves.
Let’s love people for who they are!
Don’t forget to watch the Make Me Fabulous TV Show every Sunday by 7pm on DSTV Africa Magic Showcase Channel 151. It’s a show where we celebrate love always.
As young ladies before getting married, we often have fantasies of what we think married life should be like. A bed of roses with no thorns whatsoever!
Joan had been married for less than a year and was quite shocked when she noticed her marriage was losing that spark she desired. This is how she put her comment on my blog:
I love my husband but sometimes he makes me mad. I always thought marriage was like the fairy tales (lol), so far from it. its been less than a year but we seem to be losing that spark and I want it back. Pleaseeeeeeeee make me fabulous.
Awwww. Of course I understood how she felt and decided with my team that we were gonna give her that fabulous treat to bring back the spark!
Here are some pictures from our fabulous treat for Joan and Ndidi!
Hmmmm, lovely young couple. It seems we’re gonna enjoy this.I love that moment when we pick them up from their home in style. The luxurious Porsche car gives them a taste of what is to come.Yeah, the fun is just beginning!The couple arrive at the five-star Intercontinental Hotel. I’m sure they weren’t expecting this.A very warm welcome from the Intercontinental Hotel team.They were shown into their lovely suite and after seeing that nice cosy bed, you bet their faces started to look brighter!Hmm… Hmm… Now this is getting hotter!Now it’s time to get Joan all glammed and first, we need a dress.Joan heads up to the Mango store to meet with Celebrity Stylist Yummie who helps her pick just the right one.You wanna see the dress? Naaah. Not yet.Next, we give the couple some more pampering with a joint massage at the Eko Gym & Spa.Joan needs that special touch on her hair and there’s no better person to do the job than Celebrity Hair Stylist Nancy.With her hair done, it’s time for her makeup.Celebrity Makeup Artist Bimpe Onakoya got started on Joan’s face and a short while later, she looked almost unrecognizable.Oh wow! Didn’t I tell you?Nancy did a final touch up on her hair while Yummie dressed her up and she was ready! I’m sure her husband is going to be blown away.Joan arrives back at the Intercontinental Hotel…Looking so different and hot!She makes her way to the Chinese restaurantWhile her husband, Ndidi, sits patiently waiting.He is so excited to see his pretty damsel.And believe me, he just kept staring……and admiring….…his beautiful wife.Dinner finally came and they settled down to eat.They also had some time to chat about their marriage which is what we really wanted.And then shortly after dinner, I surprised the couple with a visit.And some gifts which they totally loved! A Microwave from LG, a hamper and some Make Me Fabulous Tshirts.When Joan saw the gifts, she was so surprised……and got very emotional.I’m so glad we had the opportunity to make this lovely couple fabulous, and pray their marriage continues to remain fabulous!!!
Many thanks to our sponsors, Intercontinental Hotel, Porsche, Mango, Celebrity Stylist Yummie, Eko Gym & Spa, Celebrity Hair Stylist Nancy, Makeup Artist Bimpe Onakoya and LG Electronics.
She is a young newly-wed who never had the opportunity to have a honeymoon with her husband.
She desired one and ‘Make Me Fabulous’ was the chance to have that.
On my blog, Adewunmi applied for the fabulous treat in the comment section and her story stood out to me.
I recently got married and we never had the chance to have our honeymoon. My husband is the very busy type and we hardly have time to spend with each other. This is really affecting my marriage. Please Stephanie, make me fabulous.
We don’t like refusing heartfelt comments like this on our show, so we did just that! See some exciting photos from Adewunmi & Adeolu’s fabulous treat.
The Make Me Fabulous team headed over to her house to pick Adewunmi and her husband up for that special…. errrm… Honeymoon Edition of Make Me Fabulous.Meeting the couple for the first time. They are happy and expectant.They get in to the cozy car we brought for them from Range Rover!“Now, this is fun baby!”They arrive at the prestigious Intercontinental Hotel, Lagos.Such a young and playful couple!I love their spirit.Very nice view from the poolside.For Adewunmi, her honeymoon is becoming even more real and she wears a big smile as she meets up with Celebrity Stylist Moses at the Mango store to pick out some clothes.Next stop is the hair stylist Joseph Mesrob who gives her a whole new hair do.Celebrity Makeup Artist Kunbi of Sitpretty Makeovers also meets up with her and works with the hair team to give Adewunmi that complete and total makeover.The first and only time Adewunmi ever wore makeup was at her wedding, and it was nothing too glamorous. She is not the makeup kinda person, she says. But when the makeover is done by a professional such as Kunbi of Sitpretty Makeover, she had a rethink. Stunning result!I was the Brand Ambassador for the Vlisco Women’s Month and it was interesting to have the lovely young honeymooning couple as my guests at the event.Smiles!!!We had a lovely time before the couple headed over to dinner.After a lovely evening, they are hungry but excited.And when the food came, they devoured every bit of it.Meeting the couple again after dinner was so beautiful. Adewunmi told me the day felt like a honeymoon and that made me so happy.I had one more surprise for them… a LED TV from LG Electronics.And of course, some Make Me Fabulous T-shirts.A toast to fabulousity!!!I truly enjoyed making this lovely couple fabulous and pray their marriage continues to remain fabulous!
Many thanks to our sponsors: Intercontinental Hotel Lagos, Mango Store, Joseph Mesrob Hair & Nails, Kunbi of Sitpretty Makeovers, LG Electronics.
