Talk To Steph: I don’t want to change my name

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Q: My fiancé has become adamant about me taking his last name after we’re married. I can’t believe this is even a conversation in 2014. Don’t all modern married women keep their names? I don’t want to change my name, so what do I do?” –G.D.

If you actually want to be like the majority of modern women, that would mean that you change your last name to his. Recently, wedding juggernaut the Knot surveyed 19,000 married women about their surnames and found that just 8 percent elected to keep their names.

If you want him to consider backing down again, you’re going to need to come up with a better reason than “Everyone else is doing it, so I should, too.” Make it logical. What are the “professional reasons” you mention for keeping your name, and how will your bottom line be affected if you take on his name?

SL Fabz, what do you think? What is your take on this situation?

Marriage Name Change

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February 22, 2014

Abiri Ufuoma

You are right there.d fact dt evrybody is doin it is nt enof reasons.she needs 2 come up wt smth mor solid or profesional.take 4 instance,sm artistes,afta dir marriages dnt change dir names mayb bcos dy wana continue usin dir previous names wich a lot of fans r acustomd with.anoda reasn could b d stres asociatd wt havin 2 mk d public knw dt u v takn up a new name,especialy wt rgds 2 ur work place,properties u have in ur former name n sm oda reasns.

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February 22, 2014

Praise

Mariage is ordained by God so let not even the name put Assunder,for all this might be the tricks of the devil,lets be wise and stop destracting ourselves with traditions and customs of man

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February 22, 2014

Nnebedum Nkiru bravery

Women of nowadays eh! Why won’t u change U̶̲̥̅̊я name? Offices, schools, public etc make out space for u to change U̶̲̥̅̊я once u are married, I’ll quite understand it if we’re talking about phone number here which I personally won’t change even in marriage. Pls D̲̅ε̲̣̣̣ǎ̜̣̍®, there’s no excuse for U̶̲̥̅̊я decision, if other societal ladies husbands allow them, U̶̲̥̅̊я own societal husband says NO & his decision stands cos he’s a man of integrity. Why not add his name to urs ie Stephanie Okereke then his name(Linus). Abi the guy name funny?ignore it cos ℓ̊Ƨ̷̜̩̌̋ his pride.

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February 22, 2014

shakeera

Interesting,in islamic point of view if it is allow here, there is nothing wrongn in you keeping your name after marriage provided you allow the kids to bear their father full name without uteration,you don’t also have to be a modern woman before you can keep your name my lady,just need to work on your presentation so that there will not be any fight between you and your husband. Well done steph.

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February 23, 2014

Dutchess_MiMi

Babe calm down & do needful except your name is a brand that recks in tones of cash,then u can insist on keeping your maiden name & make him understand why keeping it its vital

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February 23, 2014

Jeremiah Tarilado

It’s no big deal but let ur kids bear ur husband’s name n be sincere abt ur reasons to ur husband. U can keep ur name without giving d reasons evry1 is giving. Jst b sincere

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February 23, 2014

Racheal Laye Edward

Women and Wahala. Y didn’t you discuss that with ur husband b4 u married him. You can keep your name but add Hyphen to it and attach your husband’s name.

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March 12, 2014

Grace E

she doesnt want to get married then…KMT women like to do unnecessary and foolish feminist or whatever things..and yes I am a woman..my dear you are bearing your father’s last name and no doubt your mum bore or bears your father’s last name too…deal with it

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