Stephanie Linus Daily

Category: Talk to Steph

  • Talk To Steph: Who Should I Marry?

    Hello Stephanie,

    I’m in a very difficult situation now and I hope your readers can help me out.

    I am 28 years-old and I have a boyfriend I have been dating for three years. We met in the University and started dating the year we graduated. The thing is he has been finding it very difficult getting a good job to help him settle down and start a family, but I’ve been very supportive and hoping things will get better for him. He also has some younger siblings that he’s taking care of. However, I recently met an older man who has lived abroad for many years and is ready to marry me. He has way more money than my boyfriend. He has met my parents and although they like my boyfriend, they are getting impatient with him and suggesting I should go for this older man.

    I’m so confused right now. Most of my friends are married or have kids already and I don’t want to get older before I settle down. Should I wait for my boyfriend to get more financially stable and marry me or leave him for this older man who is ready to get married now? – Sharon

    Hello, dearies! What do you advise Sharon to do?

  • Talk To Steph: Blocking Out The Noise (VIDEO)

    On this first edition of Talk To Steph Video Series, I’m encouraging you to invest in yourself. There are different kinds of influences out there that we allow into our space which distract us from our goals. It’s time for us to block out this noise.

    I encourage you to watch this video and I’ll be looking out for your feedback in the comments section. Also, don’t forget to subscribe to my channel. There would be more great content coming your way soon!

  • Welcome To “Talk To Stephanie” Video Series

    Hi Amazonians! I’ve got some exciting news to share with you.

    Since I started this blog a few years ago, I’ve had the best moments interacting with my awesome readers on the “Talk To Steph” posts which I share occasionally. This later grew into a segment on the Make Me Fabulous TV Show where I interact with couples and talk about their marital journey.

    I don’t claim to have the answers to everything, but in my opinion, sharing is a major step to healing when going through challenges that are beyond you. Sometimes it might not be a challenge, it could just be something you’ve been pondering upon that you need to discuss with someone else. I’ll like to fill in that gap and be someone you can talk to.

    You, my dear Amazonians, have given me so much support and love over the years and I am honored to get even closer to you through this platform. Now you get to see and hear me speak, not just write to you. Isn’t this exciting?!

    Do you have any topic you would like me to discuss? Do you have any question for me? Feel free to drop a comment and you can be sure I’ll be reading it. I might just respond in my next video 🙂

  • TALK TO STEPH: Should I Get Married After Dating For Just Six Months

    Cynthia sent this in, she needs your advice. Please drop it in the comment box:

    Hi Stephanie,

    Please post this on your blog so your readers can give me advice on my situation.

    I have been dating my boyfriend for about six months now. He is based in London but comes to Nigeria very often. He asked me to marry him. I have a good feeling about it and I want to say yes, but the problem is I feel like we don’t really know each other and that we need more time. He is abroad most of the time and has promised to take me there with him when we are about to start having children. He also assured me that he doesn’t have a wife or children in London.

    I’m so confused. He wants us to get married this year but I don’t understand his rush. What do you advice? Should I go ahead and marry him?

  • TALK TO STEPH: Which of these characters is a major turnoff for men?

    When it comes to relationships, there are some things people just can’t stand. What might be tolerable for you might be a no-go area for another person.

    Today, I’m taking things from the mens’ perspective. However, this question is open to everyone. 

    Which of these characters is a major turnoff for men?

    1. An independent woman (especially one who is richer than the man)
    2. A rude woman
    3. A lazy woman
    4. An indecent woman
    5. A dirty woman
    6. OTHERS (specify)

    If you choose any of the options, please state your reasons. 

    xoxo

    SL

  • TALK TO STEPH: WHOM SHOULD I LISTEN TO – MY DAD OR MY HUSBAND?

    I am 28 years old, married with a six year old child (we had him before we got married three years ago). I’m trying to get ahead in my career. I got an offer that would demand a lot of work and attention to career growth.

    Here is my dilemma. There are two men I don’t joke with in my life – my father and my husband.

    My father is the best dad in the world. This man suffered to ensure that me and my siblings got the best out of life.

    My husband is the love of my life.

    But these two men don’t see eye-to-eye on any issues regarding me. My father wants me to get ahead in life and do almost everything I dream of, but my husband wants me to slow down and be more domestic.

    My dad was excited when I told him about the job. He said I should go for it. But my husband isn’t pleased. He wants me to take a break from all the high-flying career goals.

    Now they are both not talking to each other. My father says he will be disappointed if I don’t take the job, and my husband says it will hurt his feelings if I take the job.

    On my part, I like the job, but I am not as crazy about it as my dad, and I am also not a slow-paced person as my husband wants me to be.

    In this case, whom do I listen to? – Victoria

  • Talk To Steph: I Find It Difficult to Get Married As A Single Mother

    Hello Steph,

    I am a single mother. I had my daughter while I was still in school. I am through with school now, I am working at the moment, and I will like to get married.  But I have issues with the men who show interest in me. Whenever I tell them that I have a child from a previous relationship, they usually withdraw their love. They just want to date, but I want more. The guy I am presently dating does not call me often anymore. He is investing less than 20% of his love and time in the relationship. I am tired. I’ll be 29 this December.

    How can I position myself as a single mother to find marriage and love? Please post this for your mature fans to help me. – Jacinta

     

  • TALK TO STEPH: I Don’t Want To Attend Higher Institution But My Mother Is Against my Decision

    I am a young lady who aspires to start a business venture. I desire to sell clothes and other fashion accessories but my mother insists I must go to school. She said it is the right thing to do. I am not academically sound. I did poorly while in secondary school and I don’t want to keep on wasting my time and my parent’s money because they don’t have very much and I don’t want to  disappoint them. But my mum is insisting I must continue my education. She says I should try and read law, that she has always wanted a child that will be a lawyer. I seriously don’t have a passion for school. I know I can sell stuff and make money. And no, I cannot do school and trade at the same time. I want to focus. Now she is saying that the reason I haven’t married is because the men that are coming are looking for graduates. I don’t know what to do. Please advise me. – Ebere

  • Talk to Steph: MY ROOMMATE IS VERY TROUBLESOME, I CAN’T COPE

    Hello Stephanie,

    I am a student schooling in a university in the southwest part of Nigeria. I am in my second year. I am actually squatting with someone I know from home – he used to stay in my neighbourhood before his parents were transferred. He is older than me. The issue is, he gets involved in a lot of trouble and I feel this will affect me also. He takes drugs, he smokes and drinks a lot. He always has one new girlfriend every week. Countless times women have fought in his room because of this. One time I got injured in the process when one girl threw an empty bottle to another girl. The pieces almost cut my eye.

    Now, I suspect he is also a cultist. I have seen him with dangerous instrument before. He is very shady and I know he steals to sustain his drinking habits. He experiments on too many bad things. I don’t have any money to get a place, and I don’t know anyone else whom I can squat with. How can I stay away from all this trouble and still maintain the free accommodation I have? I have slept in class before but that is dangerous because thugs can come there and steal anything from you or beat you just for the heck of it.

    What can I do? I’m very worried.

  • Talk To Steph: My Stepfather Always Threatens To Send Me Packing Whenever He Quarrels With My Mum

    Hello Stephanie,
     
    My name is Margaret, I am a student who lives with her mother and her husband. She remarried after the death of my father three years ago. I am the only child that the marriage produced. My mom and I live with my stepfather but I do not find comfort in my new home at all. He is very mean to me. They quarrel a lot. And when my mum and stepfather quarrel, instead of my stepfather to face the issue on ground, he would threaten my mum that he would soon send me out of his house. His statement bothers me a lot, and i know my mother is too emotionally weak to do anything about if it happens. I am 16 years old. I don’t have any close relative i can stay with. What can I do? – Margaret.