Talk To Steph: My fiancé slaps me, should I go ahead with the wedding?

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Dear Steph,

I am dating someone who is usually sweet and kind. But on the days he is upset, he roars with rage and gets physical. He has slapped me more than five times in a relationship of 18 months. He proposed two months ago, and we have fixed the date for October 2017.

Last week, it happened again. We were watching a series on TV, and we both disagreed with a particular scene. He argued his point and I argued mine, when he realized I was winning the argument, he gave me a heavy slap across my face, hitting my forehead on the sofa. My eyes still hurt from the pain.

I have complained to family, they say they’ll talk to him. My mother advised me not to argue with him again. Am I not going to speak at all or have an opinion in my own marriage?

I am excited about getting married finally, but I am worried.

I have tried to speak to him about it, but he keeps saying he is not like that and it will not happen again.

What should I do? I don’t want to marry an abusive man.

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What do you think, should she marry her fiance regardless of the issue?

Let’s hear your opinion, friends!

xoxo SL

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April 27, 2017

Gertrude Asumadu

Run for your life! Such people never change..hence the excuse of It will never happen again…yet it does! Unless he’s willing to seek support eg anger management classes….my sister cancel that wedding because he will be WORSE in marriage! Don’t make excuses for him even if your family does…remember you will be the one to endure all.these….what if he hits you and you never get up again? Uputr life is more important dear! #awordtothewise

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April 27, 2017

Ezem Chinedu

Marriage is for better for worse.

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April 27, 2017

Chinenye Joy

Dear it is not all about getting married but stay married. Do u love Urself, listen to that little voice telling u the right thing to do. U don’t have to take that, please.

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April 27, 2017

John

Take it from me a failed courtship is better than divorce. If you dont want to file for divorce some months after marriage to this potential woman beater and abuser, you have to call it quit. You live to love, don’t say because of love you will go ahead else you might not make it out alive by the end of the day. Run now for your dear life. You will definitely find a man who will truly love, respect and cherish you. You deserve to be happy dont gamble with your life

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April 28, 2017

Racheal Edward

My dear, that is a red flag!
Please, please, please, run for your life!
When u enter it may change to you being the punching bag.
You never enter u dey receive slap, when u enter them go break bottle for ya head and you may not even have the chance to be asking for advice

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May 15, 2017

Stella

Pray harder for redirection dear, because domestic violence is for real he is just showing you little of what you will c after paying your bride price.All d best.

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