Stephanie Linus Daily

Tag: Relationships

  • 9 Types Of Men Women Avoid

    Hi SL Fabz,

    Yesterday, we discussed the topic 8 Types Of Women Men Avoid and I was so overwhelmed by the discussion and comments that followed. Apparently, this is a hot topic.

    But did you think we were gonna talk about the women only? Nope!

    Just as women are attracted to certain types of men, there are other types of men that women go out of their way to avoid. Are you looking out for a new relationship? To avoid the pain you undergo when things go wrong, here’s a list of nine types of men you should run miles away from.

    The Non-Committed Guy
    This is the guy that tells you he doesn’t want a relationship immediately, the guy that can’t/won’t call you his girlfriend when it’s way overdue, or the guy that’s over 30 and hasn’t had at least two serious relationships (or one very serious, 1+ years relationship).
    It really doesn’t matter what his issues are, the bottom line is that this guy can’t see himself in a relationship with you. Do not try to change his mind, turn him around, or make him want it. You’re just going to waste your time.

    The Mama’s Boy
    The Mama’s Boy probably still lives with his parents in their house, allowing Mom to iron his clothes, make his bed and cook his meals. When a man delights in being waited on hand-and-foot by his mom, there’s trouble. He always asks his Mom before making major decisions in his life and its a big problem for you if his Mom doesn’t like you.

    The Underachiever
    You know the type. He sits at home playing video games all day and then goes to hang out with his guys at the club at night. If he has no hobbies, skills, or future aspirations outside of his living room, you know you’ve just encountered the attractive but exceedingly lazy underachiever. When searching for a man, you should always look for confidence, ambition and stability.

    The Control Freak
    Going out with this man is like dating your very strict father. At first, his embrace may seem warm and secure. But before long, you’ll be suffocating. It’ll start with going to the restaurants he chooses, seeing the movies he picks, hanging out with his friends and not yours. But eventually he tries to dictate everything, from what you wear to how you spend your free time. With a control freak, you have to give up more and more of your separate experiences, separate activities, separate friends. And then it goes deeper to separate thoughts and feelings until you no longer have an identity of your own.

    The Gadget Freak
    The gadget freak always likes to be called a ‘big boy’. He has the hottest phone and a decked-out luxury car. In other words, this guy has a lot of material things keeping him busy. As a grown-up kid who can’t resist the new plaything of the moment, he has a hard time keeping his attention on women. After all, who can compete with technology when it changes at lightning speed? This guy cares more about stuff than people. (Bad sign.) With this kind of outlook, women who date The Gadget Freak are often left wondering if an upgraded model will make them obsolete.

    The Over Intimate Guy
    If your guy is too eager for some intimacy, it’s never a good sign. For one, he may act as if he’s extremely into you just to get you into bed as soon as possible. He’s the kind of guy that looks deep into your eyes and tells you he never felt like this with any girl before just a few days after meeting him! This guy comes across as incredibly affectionate and might confuse you. If he’s the player type, this is all an act to get you into bed.

    The Cheap Guy
    He invites a woman to dinner and then subtly suggests she should pay the bill. He never splurges to buy her gifts and he always opts for the cheapest stuff available. He makes her feel like they’re on a tight budget from the very first date. It’s just a few weeks into the relationship and he’s already asking her for loans he would never pay back. Ladies, this is someone to run away from.

    The Cheater
    The Cheater doesn’t try to hide the fact that he’s checking out other women while in her presence; he flirts with the waitress and he even goes as far as to brag about his past girlfriends. Overall, he lacks respect for women. It’s a sad fact of life that some men are apt to cheat on their wives and girlfriends, it should become clear that most cheaters won’t change. Ladies, it’s time to let him go once and for all. Send the cheater packing and save the relationship that matters most – the relationship you have with yourself!

    The One Who Doesn’t Like Your Family
    Nobody has a perfect family, but if your guy consistently says he doesn’t want to be around your family, refuses to attend events where they are present, or is generally rude to them, this is a huge warning sign for problems in the future. He should love you for you, not your family, and he should respect you enough to treat them with kindness, regardless of how he feels.

    Do you have any more qualities to add to this list? Do women really avoid such type of men?

    Let’s discuss!

  • 8 Types Of Women Men Avoid

    Have you ever wondered if the way you act makes men cringe? Have you ever worried that your behavior might be making them run in the other direction?

    Just as men are attracted to certain type of women, there are other types of women that men go out of their way to avoid. Here are some of them:

    The Gold Digger
    Money matters a lot to her. She wants to marry a rich man in order to get his money. She demands gifts and expects a man to spend money on her all the time. She often asks lots of questions about man’s financial position. It’s a main blow to a man’s ego to ask him about it. That’s why men stay away from gold diggers.

    The Control Freak
    For this woman, her ideal relationship is less about compatibility and compromise and more about having someone do everything she says. This type of woman insists that you spend every waking moment with her, refusing to let you go out with the boys or spend any significant amount of time with anyone else.

    Mother Goose
    If your girlfriend is constantly fixing your hair and tucking in your shirt, you’re the victim of a Mother Goose. Although she may have good intentions and be great in many other ways, her motherly instincts will eventually drive you up the wall.

    The Flirt
    She goes around flirting with one guy and another. She can’t be loyal to one man. She cheats on her man over and over again. Even if she tries, she couldn’t stay faithful to any man. Most men wish to have a long-term relationship so they stay away from such type of women.

    The Wannabe
    She comes across as if she has a lot going on, yet you can’t really pinpoint what or who she really is. It’s more likely that she has an identity issue or is too wrapped up in the lives of celebrities that she’s lost herself along the way.

    The Chatterbox
    This type chatters incessantly about every topic that crosses her mind, no matter how mundane or unimportant it may be. She will drive you crazy with her never-ending monologues about the guy at work who never makes a new pot of coffee when he finishes the last one and the woman at the supermarket who wears too much make-up.

    The Comparative One
    She’s the one that compares you to either her terrible ex or her father that you will never live up to. It’ll be very hard to feel appreciated by her because whatever you do will not measure up to her standards. She can’t see you for who you are, she only sees how things can be better or how wrong they are.

    Do you have any more qualities to add to this list? Do men really avoid such type of women?

    Let’s discuss!

  • Talk To Steph: “I am seriously hurt”

    Thanks Steph for your intelligence in solving emotional problems. I am in deep pains. I just wedded 6 months back. One month to my wedding, my husband was duped and lost every dime he had. By the grace of God and my family’s assistance, we were able to conclude the marriage. He was living in the family house and after the problem, he had no money to relocate to another house for us to live. Currently, I am seriously hurt as my mother-in-law and brother-in-law accuse me of being the reason for his misfortune, that I’ve diverted his whole attention to me and made him a woman wrapper. They use abusive words on me despite all my efforts to carry on with responsibilities he was shouldering. I receive lots of humiliation from my in-laws and torture.

    Aunty Steph, please do you think it is wise for us to raise money anyhow and pack out or should I hold on to see if they will still realize their fault and stop their ugly acts on me. My husband is a very nice man but the mother and brother are seeing me as evil. I am dying in pains. Aunty Steph, please what do I do?

    I received the above emotional email from a lady who is in a lot of pain about the situation in her marriage. She is newly wedded and passing through a difficult time. Having pressures from in-laws is not a comfortable situation for anyone. My most important word of advice to you dear is to PRAY. Pray, pray and then pray some more. God sees everything and has the solutions to your problems.

    Secondly, living with in-laws especially for a newly wedded couple is not really advisable. You and your husband need space to bond together as husband and wife and make decisions for yourselves. I understand that it’s difficult with the financial constraints and I pray that God will make a way for you soon in that regard.

    Stay strong and look on to God.

    SL

    *Kindly give your advice to this lady in the comments section.

     

     

  • Do You Know That Men Also Feel Insecure?

    As ladies, we tend to feel insecure about a lot of things, especially physical qualities. Our weight, our height, our looks… The interesting thing is, men also feel insecure!

    Your boyfriend and guy friends may keep quiet about their feelings, but there are plenty of things men are insecure about. Women aren’t the only gender who worry about what others think of them. Men can be just as cautious, but they try their best not to let it show. Here are some of the biggest things men are insecure about:

    1. HIS HEIGHT

    Most men want to be taller than their girlfriends. If they’re short, then they can’t do much about it, except wear lifts in their shoes. Otherwise, they’re stuck at the height that they were given. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with a woman being taller than her man, but most men are not comfortable with this.

    2. HIS WEIGHT

    It’s more socially acceptable for men to be overweight than it is for women, but they still like to look fit. If your boyfriend sees you staring at a man with a six pack, he’s going to wish he had a six pack too. You’re not the only one who wishes they had more time for exercise. Your boyfriend wants to look good for you, just like you look good for him.

    3. HIS OVERALL ATTRACTIVENESS

    If you have a pimple, you get to cover it with foundation. If you don’t like how small your eyes look, you can create an illusion with eyeshadow and liner. Men aren’t as lucky. Most guys aren’t willing to wear make-up, so if he has an issue with his appearance, he’s stuck with it.

    4. HIS FACIAL HAIR

    We worry about the hair on our legs and arms, but men worry about the hair on their face. There are so many different options for them to choose, and they don’t want to make the wrong one. Deciding whether they should go clean-shaven, or grow out their stubble is a hard choice for them.

    5. HIS FINANCIAL SITUATION

    Traditionally, men pay for their girlfriend’s food when they go out on a date. If he doesn’t have enough money to cover your meal, he’s going to feel inadequate. He wants to feel like he can take care of his woman, even if she doesn’t need his help. So if your boyfriend gets touchy when the subject of money comes up, it’s probably because he wishes he could afford everything you ever asked for.

    Women aren’t the only ones who are embarrassed about certain aspects of themselves. Men try not to show their weak spots, but they can be just as insecure as we are.

    Does your boyfriend/husband let you in on his insecurities, or does he act like he’s the most confident man around? Do you know of any other things men are insecure about that are not on the list?

    Let’s discuss!

  • “Excuse Me, You Look Familiar”

    While growing up as a teenager and post-teenage years in the Secondary School and University, I must have heard these words a million times. This was the most common pick up line guys used to get the attention of girls and till date, it is still the most annoying!

    Even when it was obvious they had never seen me (or any of my girlfriends) before, they always said “Excuse me, you look familiar” just to get our attention. My girlfriends and I always had a good laugh about it.

    Over the years, I got to hear more hilarious pick up lines and some really creepy ones too and I’m in the mood for sharing them today.

    Here are some:

    Your Dad must be a terrorist because he made a bomb

    If I was a fly, I’d land on you first because you’re the shit

    Excuse me, can you give me directions to your house

    Oh, excuse me, but I think you dropped something (then he hands her a piece of paper with his phone number and ‘please call me’ written on it)

    My love for you is like diarrhoea, I just can’t keep it in

    If you were a fruit, you’d be a fineapple

    *Side note to guys: You really need to find more creative and confident ways to chat a lady up to get her attention and respect. Some of the pick up lines I hear these days are just crazy.

    So SL Fabz, lets have fun this afternoon recalling some of the best and worst  pick up lines you know. Tell us the best and worst pick up line a guy has ever said to you or you’ve ever said to a girl. This should be fun.

    Can’t wait to read your comments 🙂

  • Friendship Across Distance

    Friendship

    Do you often think back at how close you used to be with some friends probably when you were in school or when you were much younger, and how your lives have changed since then?

    When distance separates two friends, it is often difficult to keep up that connection, that bond that seemed almost inseparable between you two.

    SL Fabz, let’s discuss this. I came across this quote today: (more…)

  • Would You Marry A Single Mother?

    Would you marry a single mother

    When most people think of marriage in our society, it is often between a man and a woman who haven’t had any children from past relationships. Not that there is anything wrong with it, of course not, but I can’t help but think about some other members of the society who are often segregated when it comes to the topic of marriage.

    I mean single parents. (more…)

  • A Word For The Ladies

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    Hi Ladies,

    The words in the picture above mean a lot and I think it’s something we should all take seriously.

    Many times as women, we tend to feel incomplete without a man by our side and would go to great lengths to ensure we don’t remain “single”. I know that feeling. (more…)

  • Stephanie’s Poll: Conflict In Relationships

    Conflict in Relationships
    Hi SL Fabz,

    Thanks for all your wonderful comments on previous posts. Your responses go a long way to help a lot of people with different questions and issues, and of course, for those funny ones, you certainly make my day!

    Today, we’re going to be discussing a very important topic on relationships with the hope of finding solutions to avoiding or dealing with them. (more…)

  • Love Or Money?

    Love or Money

    Yesterday, I stumbled upon an argument between an elderly woman and a young lady in her twenties. For the sake of this post, lets call the elderly woman Madam, and the young lady Miss.

    Simply put, the topic was this: What is more important in a relationship? Love or Money.

    While Madam argued that Love was the most important ingredient needed for a relationship to survive the test of time, Miss felt that Money which provided comfort and luxury was more important than Love for a long lasting relationship. They both raised valid points that makes it difficult to say any of them is wrong.

    So I decided to bring the topic to you my SL Fabz. What is more important for a relationship to stand the test of time? Is it Love or Money?

    Let’s discuss!

    xoxo

    SL