Stephanie Linus Daily

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  • Talk to Steph: MY ROOMMATE IS VERY TROUBLESOME, I CAN’T COPE

    Hello Stephanie,

    I am a student schooling in a university in the southwest part of Nigeria. I am in my second year. I am actually squatting with someone I know from home – he used to stay in my neighbourhood before his parents were transferred. He is older than me. The issue is, he gets involved in a lot of trouble and I feel this will affect me also. He takes drugs, he smokes and drinks a lot. He always has one new girlfriend every week. Countless times women have fought in his room because of this. One time I got injured in the process when one girl threw an empty bottle to another girl. The pieces almost cut my eye.

    Now, I suspect he is also a cultist. I have seen him with dangerous instrument before. He is very shady and I know he steals to sustain his drinking habits. He experiments on too many bad things. I don’t have any money to get a place, and I don’t know anyone else whom I can squat with. How can I stay away from all this trouble and still maintain the free accommodation I have? I have slept in class before but that is dangerous because thugs can come there and steal anything from you or beat you just for the heck of it.

    What can I do? I’m very worried.

  • Talk To Steph: My Stepfather Always Threatens To Send Me Packing Whenever He Quarrels With My Mum

    Hello Stephanie,
     
    My name is Margaret, I am a student who lives with her mother and her husband. She remarried after the death of my father three years ago. I am the only child that the marriage produced. My mom and I live with my stepfather but I do not find comfort in my new home at all. He is very mean to me. They quarrel a lot. And when my mum and stepfather quarrel, instead of my stepfather to face the issue on ground, he would threaten my mum that he would soon send me out of his house. His statement bothers me a lot, and i know my mother is too emotionally weak to do anything about if it happens. I am 16 years old. I don’t have any close relative i can stay with. What can I do? – Margaret.

  • TALK TO STEPH: I AM PREGNANT BUT MY BOYFRIEND SAID HE IS NOT READY

    Hello Steph,
    I see that you allow your fans to seek advice on your platform. Thank you.
     
    This is my issue:
    I am 22 years old and presently doing my NYSC at Anambra state. I hooked up to this new guy and we decided to explore sex. I regret not using protection, I was very sure I was on my safe period, may be I miscalculated, but it happened and none of us was really prepared. One minute we are talking and the next minute… things happened. My menstrual cycle had delayed for two months and I was feeling funny. So I went for a test last week and I was confirmed pregnant. When I told my boyfriend, he said he is not ready to be a father now. He says he is not my boyfriend, that I was only an NYSC fling. That I should get rid of it and never come near him again.
     
    This is my dilemma: I lost a cousin last year when she was trying to get rid of a pregnancy. The gist spread through out my village. It was too embarrassing for the family; even up till now they still use it to warn us in my family. I am afraid. I don’t know what to do. I have no money and even if I did, I am afraid to do it. 
     
    I can’t take care of a child. I have nothing. I’ve made the mistake, please I don’t want harsh words. The deed is done. What can I do now?
     
    Please advice. I am dreading telling my father. He will definitely disown me.
     
    Help!
     
    – Ijeoma

  • Happy World Teacher’s Day!

    Today is World Teacher’s Day. This year’s theme is: Teaching in Freedom, Empowering Teachers.

    I’ll like to send a shout out to all hardworking teachers on this special day. You play a very important role in building society. Without teachers, there’s no future. The future and the children who we believe will build that future rely on you to make that dream come true.

    We appreciate teachers who teach even when there are no facilities. They teach despite it all.

    Well done! Happy Teacher’s Day!

    xoxo SL

  • TALK TO STEPH: My Aunty Does Not Want Men Around Me But She Pressures Me To Get Married

    Hello Stephanie,

    I am in my final year in Polytechnic, I’m 23 years old. I live with my aunty and she’s strict when it comes to boys talking to me. I don’t hang around many men or even have time for that, but whenever I am on a call or chatting with a boy from church or neighburhood, she begins to warn me to stay away from men.

    But what confuses me is that she always badgers me to find a good man and marry. She’ll say, “You know you are graduating soon, you need to start preparing for marriage”. But how do I prepare for marriage if she won’t let me talk to any man? I’m not doing anything wrong with them but I just think it is weird that she wants me to find a husband but she is always complaining when I talk to men. So how am I going to find a man to marry me if I am only allowed to talk to girls?

    Even I would like to get married immediately after NYSC. What can I do about this, please? – Inioluwa

  • HAPPY BIRTHDAY, STEPHIE!

    From the entire team at StephanieDaily, we want to wish an amazing woman, a brilliant filmmaker, a passionate activist, a kind human being, lovely mother and wife, Stephanie Linus, a happy birthday.

    We waited 24 hours to ease our excitement enough to post this. You are a wonder and we love you dearly!

    Have a great and even more prosperous new year!

  • Let’s Pray for Las Vegas

    It makes no sense to just stand up and decide to take the life of another. It makes no sense at all. This pain belongs to the entire world. Countries all over the world are going through devastating conflicts and violent attacks, we in Africa and Nigeria are not excluded. Ours may not be properly documented but deaths are happening under many vile pretext. It has to stop at some point. We have to heal as human beings.

    We have to find our soul again, and allow peace

    and understanding flow through.

    #PrayForLagVegas

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  • TALK TO STEPH: SHOULD I SETTLE ABROAD AND LEAVE MY FAMILY HERE?

    Hello Stephanie,

    I want to grab an opportunity to grow my business abroad, but my family is based in Nigeria. I know it’s a common thing for husbands to relocate for the promise of a better life for the family, however my marriage is just six months old and we have a three weeks old baby. I am in my mid thirties, but my wife is just 21 and she is scared she won’t be able to cope without because she has to go to school whilst taking care of our baby, and the stress may be too much for her. She says she needs my physical presence and protection, She also complains about sex. My parents are dead and my siblings are living their own lives. My mother-in-law runs a farm in her village and taking care of a sick husband so she cannot be in town to take care of her.

    The offer to grow my business is coming from my paternal uncle – a man I haven’t seen in over 20 years who is trying to rebuild connection with his relatives. My wife says I shouldn’t take the offer just yet, and begs for more time. She says she is going to be lonely.

    I feel like if I don’t take it now, I may not have the opportunity again. And I really need to expand my business.

    Can you ask your fans how they will handle this in my position? What do I do?

  • A CELEBRATION OF THE NIGERIAN

    It’s been 57 years since our beloved country became independent. Despite our differences, pummeled by tribal and religious issues, we stand firm. Every nation has its own challenges and Nigeria is no different. Regardless of this fact, we have been able to hold our forte as citizens. We are hardworking and always crave for new opportunities.
    We do not wait for the country to provide for us; we are nation builders in the areas we occupy.

    So this is actually a celebration of the Nigerian citizen. We are marking the 57th anniversary of this nation today. We are grateful to God for how far we have come. 57 years, yet a lot to learn and achieve. We will get there.

    Happy Independence Day, Nigeria.

  • GOD WILL PERFECT YOUR WORKS

    The Audacity Of Faith.
     
    Faith is biblically defined as the substance of things hoped for and the evidence of things not seen. With the injection of our natural thoughts, there are certain events that seem impossible to the human angle. Records have been broken, feats have been re-achieved by individuals whom were once assumed to be low lives. You do not have to always stretch your thoughts in difficult situations. The bible admonishes us to cast our cares upon the Lord because he cares for us. Getting far in life is not just by your own will power. You need God to perfect your works. Proverb 16 vs 1 says; “the preparation of the heart in man, and the answer of the tongue, is from the Lord.” 
     
    No matter the difficult situation that you may be facing, acknowledge the God factor. Have faith in your creator. Before we were born, God structured our lives. He knows what’s best for us. 
     
    You may have challenges and equally experiencing hopeless situations. Your heart may be aching from countless problems and all you want to do is wet your pillow with your tears and give up  on life’s race. Cheer up! God will never let you down. His grace is sufficient for us all. 1 Corinthians 10: 13 reads: There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.
     
    Have faith. Lean on Jesus and let Him be your guide.
     
    xoxo SL