Stephanie Linus Daily

Tag: Marriage

  • Talk To Steph: He Married Someone Else

    I am 32 years old. I dated a guy for four years. He took care of me financially. I know he loves me and I love him with everything I’ve got but just last month February, he married his ex-girlfriend. He did all the preparations without my knowledge. It was two weeks to the wedding that I heard he was getting married which he did not deny. At that time, we were still dating.

    It is two weeks now that he got married but he still comes to my house and still takes care of everything just like before. He still tells me he loves me but he did not know how the whole thing happened. He said that I should give him time so that he can leave the lady for me.

    I love him so much I don’t have the courage to stop him from coming to my house. I feel like seeing him everyday so I’m planning to leave my state to another state to start a new life because I know it won’t be easy for him to quit that marriage. Please I need advice.

    SL Fabz, please give some advice to this reader who sent this heartfelt email about a situation she is passing through.

     

    *Remember, if you have a challenge in your relationship that you need advice for, please send an email to info@stephaniedaily.com with the subject ‘Talk To Steph’

  • Age Is Just A Number! 7 Ladies Share Their Experiences On Dating & Marrying Older Men

    Permit me to start this post today by thanking you all for your daily comments. This blog would be nothing without your comments and contributions which truly brighten up my day, everyday!

    But most interestingly SL Fabz, its not only about me, but how you inspire other readers with your comments. Believe me, I learn a lot from your comments and I’m sure other readers do too.

    The last time I put up a Talk To Steph post where a 23 year-old lady asked if it was OK to marry a 36 year-old man, many of you ladies gave some great advice and also shared your experiences with dating and marrying older men. (CLICK HERE if you missed it). Today, I’d like to share those comments:

    Emma
    I really don’t see anything wrong with that. My husband is 20 yrs older than me and today, I’m happy because that was the best step I’ve ever taken in my life. But remember to pray about it.

    Ebere
    Age is just a number!!! I had the same problem you are having now then because my hubby is almost 11yrs older than me and we are happily married for 4yrs now. In my previous relationship, the guy was just 4yrs older than me but we were always quarreling & even fought severally. So I had to quit him before I met my hubby who is loving and caring who does everything for me. From my experience, I’ve realized age is just a number if you like d person in question. So since you like every thing about him, then age should not be the hindrance because that man will handle any challenge in that marriage maturely, since you are not matured enough to handle some situations considering your age. Good luck.

    Maureen
    I am 30 and my husband to be is 42. We are happy and love one another. That’s the key. At first I was really bothered about his age but not until we started planning our wedding that I felt nothing was wrong with it.

    Kendra
    My husband is 11 years older than I am and guess what? We dated for 6 whole years so you can imagine how old I was at the time. Presently, I’m 23. We get along very well. He’ll pamper you to pieces and love you to the moon and back. Trust me. #wink

    Cyndy
    My husband is 14yrs older than I am. Pretty sure you got the message!

    Karinate
    I am 22 and dating a guy of 36 and I love him ssoooo very much. Follow your heart, there is nothing wrong with the age.

    Aisha
    My boyfriend is 17yrd older than me…I’m not the least bothered about it. Sweety please say yes to him and ask for some more time to know him better. Goodluck.

    What do you think? Is age really just a number?

    What if the reverse was the case and the lady was older than the man, would you still say age is just a number? Let’s discuss!

  • Talk To Steph: I Love Him But He’s Married

    Miss E needs your advice. Here’s her story:

    I am 28yrs, I’ve been in a relationship for the past 5yrs. Then I was in school and I met this guy who promised me heaven and earth. He helped me with financial support. After 3yrs of our relationship, he then opened up that he had a wife and two kids. I thought nothing was wrong marrying a married man. I was pregnant last year, I was so happy but when I disclosed it to him, he was so afraid that he did everything to convince me to have an abortion. He told me that he has not gotten an apartment for me and I can’t live with his wife unless I want to be dead. I agreed and had the abortion. In the process I almost lost my life but thank God for His mercy. After sometime, he came and begged me with money that he loves me that he only wants us to plan things right.

    What will I do? I really love this guy. It’s been over one year now and he hasn’t gotten any apartment yet. Many of my married friends mock me, telling me that I’m just wasting my time. Anytime I have the courage to tell him I am not interested again and we should go our separate ways, he sheds endless tears to prove his love and reminds me of all he has spent on me. I have people who àre asking my hand in marriage but I don’t love them and I don’t want to be an ungrateful person. I will be 28yrs by March. Please advice me, I don’t know what to do.

    SL Fabz, I know its very easy to be judgmental in this situation but lets try not to be and give her the best advice we can.

    *Remember, if you have a challenge in your relationship that you need advice for, please send an email to info@stephaniedaily.com with the subject ‘Talk To Steph’

  • Talk To Steph: I Don’t Want To Lose Her!

    I received this touching email from a male reader recently who prefers to remain anonymous. Most times, I get emails from women about relationship issues so it was a bit different and interesting to read a man’s point of view.

    I must sincerely express my gratitude over this enviable innovative idea of yours whereby, helping people resolve issues as concerning relationships and other matters. Please kindly use your God given discretion to help in this issue.

    I’m 25 in a relationship with a lady of 22 but from the look of things, she’s really almost set for marriage and am not yet ready to settle down because of some yet unanswered questions.

    1. Can I really settle down at 27 or 28?
    2. Am the 5th in a family of 6, how would my family react to my decision of settling down soon?
    3. Though currently I have a job that I earn about 250k monthly but there’s no job security though am making other investment plans but on her end, she is just about starting her Youth service. Now, considering Nigeria factors, what if the job stops anytime soon what then happens?

    Recently, she suggested that I meet her parents for formal acquaintance which I did. I also presented a bottle of wine to her Dad. I assume she didn’t know what that means and I did not explain it to her.

    Now the issue is, she is totally the kind of a lady I want to be my wife but I have this fear that she might not be patient enough till the time I’m stipulating to settle down which is at the age of 30 and I really don’t want to lose her to anyone.

    Five years is a long time for a lady who is absolutely ready for marriage to wait. I have to ask you these questions: Have you proposed to her? Does she know you really want to marry her? Have you made her understand your reasons for not wanting to get married now?

    Have it in mind that the way you feel now about her may be different from the way you’d feel in 5 years time so it can be a tough one asking her to wait for you for five years. However, you are both young and have your whole lives ahead of you. I’d suggest you take it one step at a time. Don’t rush things. Get to know each other better; concentrate on building your relationship, your career and impacting each other positively. When you are ready to settle down, you’d be in a better position to address this issue again.

    I sincerely wish you the very best!

    *Your kind and useful advice would go a long way in helping him through this difficult situation so feel free to share it.

    Do you wish to send in your question for our ‘Talk To Steph’ column? Please email info@stephaniedaily.com with the subject ‘Talk To Steph’.

  • How will you react to this!

    You’ve been dating this person for 9 months, then you get engaged…but the pressure of life comes in the way of your love and both of you couldn’t handle it.

    So you break up.

    Only to hear 3 months later that he/she is getting married soon.

    How will you react to this?

  • Talk To Steph: I don’t want to change my name

    Talk To Steph

    Q: My fiancé has become adamant about me taking his last name after we’re married. I can’t believe this is even a conversation in 2014. Don’t all modern married women keep their names? I don’t want to change my name, so what do I do?” –G.D.

    If you actually want to be like the majority of modern women, that would mean that you change your last name to his. Recently, wedding juggernaut the Knot surveyed 19,000 married women about their surnames and found that just 8 percent elected to keep their names. (more…)

  • Stephanie’s Poll: Is Age Really Just A Number?

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    STEPHANIE’S POLL

    Hi dearies, it’s time for our Q’s and A’s, I ask and you answer. The question for this week is:

    Would you cancel your wedding if you find out some weeks before that your spouse has been lying about his or her age? For instance, if your wife to be is actually 5 years older than she says she is or if your husband is 5 years younger than he says he is.

    Is age really a determining factor in love and marriage? I’d like to know what you think.

    Please share your thoughts

    xoxo

    SL